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10 Practical Effective Steps to sustainable fat loss & mind/ body health

By Denise Lescano, Author of the Messenger Copyright 2010 www.deniselescano.com for more info

Denise is an Intuitive Consultant, Medical Intuitive and Author. Prior to her consulting career, Denise worked professionally for several years as a licensed and certified personal fitness trainer and nutritional advisor in FL; Certified thru the National Federation of Professional Trainers, NFPT.  Denise has worked as a martial arts instructor and also trained for amateur competitions in the NPC as a figure/fitness competitor.

Losing weight and keeping it off is probably one of the most talked about subjects in our society today. Obesity and manmade disease have not only become accepted in our culture as the norm, they have become an epidemic and bi-product of self- destructive behavior that we are now passing along to our children.  I’m here to tell you that you do not need to buy in to the hype of this diet or that, the latest exercise gadget, fitness fad or diet pill. Losing weight and keeping it off is really quite simple.  Prior to working as a consultant, I worked several years as a licensed and certified Personal Trainer (NFPT) and nutritional advisor.  In addition to dropping 35 lbs over 10 years ago myself and keeping it off, I have helped many others to do the same.  If you follow the steps that I outline here, I guarantee you will lose excess body fat, keep it off and become healthier physically, emotionally and mentally in the process. 

First and foremost, I want you to remember that this is about making a life style change; it’s not about the latest diet or fitness fad.  Success requires that you commit to changing your “life” not just your body, but by doing so know that you will also change your body as a result.  All change requires discipline. Some of us have never been tutored in, or mastered the principles of discipline, so I will give you some tips to help you with that too if you are lacking in that department.  I can tell you I certainly was when I began a healthy lifestyle many years ago.   As a medical intuitive, spirit gives me a very unique and penetrating insight in to the diseases of the physical body. I have learned though my work that we create many of our diseases and they are manifested in our bodies as a result of our thoughts, emotions and lifestyle choices.  I’m not saying that we create all disease; of course some diseases have genetic, hereditary and unavoidable origins. However, even in the case that the disease is unavoidable as some are, we have much more control of our healing process than we generally realize.  The body has a tremendous ability to repair and heal itself when given a proper diet of healthy food, emotions and thoughts.

Before we move on to the 10 steps to a healthier you, it is important to understand that health and healthy sustainable weight are 100% an issue of “balance.” The body is a finely tuned biological machine that requires regular maintenance to remain in balance and functioning properly. It is also vital to recognize that our thoughts, feelings and actions are an equal and essential part of the balance, not just the food we put in to our mouths.

If you follow and commit to making these steps an everyday part of your life, you WILL lose weight, keep it off and be much healthier physically, mentally and emotionally for it…I promise!

Step One:            Stop eating “processed foods” completely.  Processed foods are everything from fast food, prepared frozen dinners, and prepared boxed foods, micro-wave dinners to eating at many of our favorite chain restaurants.  I don’t care if the label says “Healthy Choice”, fat free, 100 calorie snack pack; no sugar added blah blah blah. If it is in a bag, that’s in a box, or already prepared, or precooked don’t buy it and don’t eat it! All of these foods are overloaded with Hydrogenated Oils (Trans fats), High Fructose Corn Syrup, Sugars, MSG and harmful amounts of salt and preservatives.  Without boring you with too many technicalities, here is the skinny on why I’m so against these ingredients and processed foods. “Trans fats” (hydrogenated & partially-hydrogenated oils) are fats that are molecularly altered by man in a lab to give cookies, breads and other processed foods a longer shelf life and a soft or creamy consistency. They can do this because naturally occurring bacteria cannot break them down and digest them which prevent them from getting stale.  The problem for us is neither can our bodies break them down and digest them! They thicken our cell walls and prevent vital, health sustaining and cancer preventing nutrients from entering the cell. These nutrients (essential fatty acids & antioxidants) are what the body uses to repair damaged cells and prevent cancer from growing. Trans fats are one of the big causes of cancer in our country and that is a fact.  High Fructose Corn Syrup & corn syrup are up to 10 times as sweet as sugar. They cause huge insulin spikes in the body and if ingested enough, for long enough will lead to high blood sugar and eventually on to type II diabetes.  They are directly contributing to obesity.  MSG has a whole range of health problems it causes, but most common are headaches and fluid retention.  We all know that high levels of sodium contribute to heart disease and high blood pressure.  Preservatives have wide and varied health consequences as well. Get in the habit of reading the “Ingredients” in what you buy and look for these items. They are not always listed in the nutritional panel.  A label can say “0 trans fats” if there is less than 1gram per serving and still have trans fats in it, plus who eats only one serving?

Buy uncooked meat and cook it yourself. If you can afford organic meat- buy it. Our meats are pumped with growth hormone, steroids and antibiotics.  Growth hormone is what body builders take to “gain weight”.  When we eat meat pumped with hormones we are also eating those hormones. Buy fresh or frozen veggies and cook them yourself.  I cook all of my meals and am quite good at cooking things in 10-20 minutes. I rarely ever eat processed foods or buy them for my family and I don’t eat out very often either.  What did you say, “You don’t have the time?” Then I say, “Find the time…make the time!” Readjust your priorities, for your health and your family’s health. Don’t buy fruit rolls for your kids, buy fruit!  Get the idea?

Step Two:            Cut way back on ALL wheat products and Sugar, and eliminate processed wheat & sugar products altogether.  I don’t care what you were taught in school about the food pyramid, forget it. It’s wrong!  There are many problems with the processed wheat that is used in food today, bread, cookies and pasta for example. I’ll let you research those on your own, but believe me when I tell you the bread you buy today is not what our ancestors ate 100 years ago and it is NOT good for you!.If you must eat bread limit your intake and buy it from the bakery. Buy only whole grain bread and avoid the ones sold in bags in the center aisle of the grocery store.  Many people have sensitivities to wheat products and don’t even know it. Wheat will cause water retention, weight gain, Candida (yeast in the digestive track) and all sorts of other problems if overeaten.  If you constantly have a bloated belly or constipation and have no other medical issues in those areas, you probably are sensitive to wheat or over eating wheat products.  Cut way back on Sugars.  Sugar is an addiction in our country.  The epidemic of obesity and type II diabetes in our country is proof of it.  The problem is many people are eating huge amounts of sugar everyday and not even aware of it. There are hidden sugars in processed foods.  A common ingredient, Corn Syrup is just a very dense form of sugar.  Sugar and corn syrup are both put in to almost anything processed, even if it doesn’t taste sweet.  I recommend for most folks to try and consume not more than between 50-75 grams of sugar a day for health.  If you are trying to lose weight then you may need to stay closer to 25-50grams.  If you are very active you may be able to get away with 50-100 a few days per week.  You will probably be shocked to see how much sugar you actually consume when you begin tracking this. This is MOST Important** Never “drink” sugar!!!  This includes sodas, as well as, juice and sweet coffee drinks.  I also recommend not more than 1-2 cans of diet soda a day.  If you use sweeteners for your coffee or tea switch to all natural Stevia versions and get away from Splenda, Sweet N Low, Equal and other chemical substitutes for sugar.  You hear it a lot, but it’s a better idea to get used to drinking more water.  Professional athletes have understood for decades that Insulin is the hormone in the body that triggers the body to store energy consumed as body fat. Did you get that?  Insulin tells the body to store calories eaten as body fat.  Sugar eaten releases insulin. The more sugar eaten the more insulin, the more fat stored.  Read up on the Glycemic Foods index and stay away from high glycemic foods. These foods ABSOLUTLEY contribute directly to weight gain, obesity, insulin resistance and type II diabetes.  Also, realize that included in sugars is fruit. If trying to lose weight you will need to limit fruits until you reach a desired weight, and then you can reintroduce them in small amounts for maintenance. An added bonus, if you refrain from eating sweets at least 3-4 hours before bed your body will naturally burn body fat for fuel while you sleep!

Step Three:        Eat more lean protein and fiber. Simply put, protein is the building block of the body’s muscle, organs and skin.  It is also very difficult for the body to turn protein in to fat.  The best sources of protein are lean animal meats, eggs, oats and nuts.  The body also has to work very hard digesting protein and Fiber rich foods and in some cases burns more calories in digestion that are actually in the food.  Fiber rich foods like broccoli, strawberries and nuts for example are very molecularly dense in addition to being full of fiber, so they take more energy to break down and digest.  Fiber keeps the digestive track clean and healthy.  A brief note about Vitamins** Vitamins are another complex topic altogether, but for practical purposes I recommend a good multi-vitamin, with extra supplements of antioxidant vitamins  A, C & E, a good B-Complex and a good EFA supplement as a foundation for some extra nutritional insurance.

Step Four:           Walk for at least 30-45 minutes a day, at least 5 days per week.   It is a fact that walking is the most efficient quickest way to lose excess body fat. Yes, walking….not running, not biking, not step class or dance aerobics…but walking!  “Why?” you ask, “But I sweat so much more when I’m running or spinning?”  Yes, but high energy cardio activities such as running and spinning burn up mostly the glucose (sugar) that is stored up in the liver, not body fat. The higher the intensity of cardio and the harder you breathe, the faster the body needs an uptake of fuel to power the body.  So, the body goes straight for the sugar reserves stored in the liver. While great for the heart and lungs, high intensity aerobics are not as effective at burning body fat and actually often burn up vital muscle mass in the process.  Walking requires a much slower uptake of energy and after about the first 20 minutes of walking, the body begins to tap into its reserves of stored body fat. This is why I recommend walking for 45 minutes or even 60 minutes if you have the time.

Step Five:            Weight Train 2-3 days per week.  Believe me when I tell you, especially the lady’s please listen up, weight training will do far more to shape your body than aerobics class ever will!  I am very serious, and I don’t want to upset my fitness class instructors out there!  Fitness class is great for fitness, but the most effective way to reshape and tone the body is through weight training. The other more important point is that muscle mass regulates metabolism. A pound of muscle requires four times the amount of energy (food) to survive as a pound of fat.  The more muscle you have the higher your metabolism, the more you can eat!  Cardio raises metabolism ONLY while you are doing it, muscle mass raises your metabolism all day and even while you sleep!  Most people do not know that after the age of 30 our muscle mass will naturally shrink roughly 10% every 10 years if we do not do anything to maintain it. That means an inactive 60 year old woman who is the same weight she was in her 20’s now has 30% more fat and 30% less muscle than she had at 20 even if she is the same weight of 125lbs.  This is one of the reasons why we get “flabbier” as we age.  By weight training we can keep from losing muscle and even grow more muscle mass at any age.  The key is, you cannot just go through the motions on the machine…you really need to push yourself, increase your weight over time and lift weights to “build muscle”. For the ladies reading this, I will assure you with 100% certainty that you will not bulk up. I spent many years bodybuilding and I will tell you it is very difficult to put on large amounts of muscle, especially for woman. The woman you see in fitness magazines are working out several hours a day and eat very strict diets to look the way they do.  You do not have to worry about bulking up.  I would also like to make a suggestion, if you don’t know how to weight train properly – hire a licensed Personal Trainer who does to teach you!  I used to tell my clients, “you would never attempt to work on your own car, refrigerator or TV; you would hire a professional who knows how these things work. Your body is so much more complicated than any of these things.  Proper form in an exercise is absolutely the difference between results, no results and injury.  In the gym I’ve watched people come day after day and gain no results because they really had no idea what they were doing. It is really worth it to hire someone to teach you and learn the right way to weight train. You will avoid injuries and damage to your joints and you will see results much quicker. I hired a trainer before I ever became one and trained with him for years. However, you don’t need to do that. I recommend hiring a trainer for 3-6 sessions to learn proper form and a personalized routine. He/she should also write down for you a routine that you can follow on your own. Then, meet with your trainer every 2-3 months so they can assess your progress and prescribe a new regimen.  Otherwise, the body will quickly adjust to the routine and will not continue to grow.  A good trainer is money well spent. What my trainer taught me is invaluable and will last me for the rest of my life. 

Step Six:              Eat!  Eat and enjoy eating!  Eat for your health and “eat to lose weight.”  Eat small meals every 3-4 hours all day long. DON’T ever “not eat” or skip meals.  The body is like a furnace and if you don’t feed it the fire goes out and the furnace shuts down. The best way to keep the metabolism revved up is too eat all day long!  Do you know it takes more calories to digest a piece of broccoli than is even in the broccoli, so you can eat broccoli all day long and lose weight doing it!  The key is to keep a stable even blood sugar, all day long. When we don’t eat blood sugar drops which leads to fatigue and cravings. Then to compensate we over eat and insulin spikes and we begin a rollercoaster ride of overeating and fat storage. So, bottom line, eat all day long every 3-4 hours, small meals and healthy snacks. This will require you to plan ahead. Carry in your bag, car or to work, things you can eat quickly. For me, I take along nuts, protein bars, fruits, boiled eggs, trail mix or anything else I can put in a baggie.  A meal for me might be a handful of cashews, a protein bar, or two boiled eggs for example.

Step Seven:        Focus your thoughts on eating, not “not eating.”  This is a very simple, obvious point that many people just don’t get.  Read it again.  In my experience of training woman and men, I found that woman have the most difficult time with this.  You have a choice, you can either obsess and focus all day long on the fact that you can’t eat Oreo cookies, your favorite snack or you can choose to focus on everything you can now eat without guilt!  Filet Mignon, Shrimp, cashews, and strawberries…or whatever you love. Focus on what you can eat and what you love to eat.  Focus on the fact that you are now eating for health; you are feeding your body, mind and soul with nourishment. Do not focus on any aspect of deprivation, starvation or losing weight > this is all focusing on “lack” and will keep you feeling in a state of lack and sacrifice and feeling deprived. This is not about sacrifice!  This is about gaining health, gaining muscle tone, abundance, nourishment; joy in eating and feeding yourself not only healthy foods but healthy thoughts and intentions.  Everything you do or don’t do starts in your head. If you don’t get your head right in the beginning, you will self sabotage and even the best trainer will not keep you on track. Start by getting your head straight!

Step Eight:          Keep a Journal.  This will do wonders to help you get your head straight by pinpointing what triggers you to veer off in to unhealthy self-sabotaging behaviors.  I kept a journal for a year once I initially started on my own journey to better health.  In doing so, I learned a mountain of information about myself that had nothing to do with food!  I learned through my own journaling and training my clients that people very rarely eat for hunger and more often eat for stress, depression, loneliness, boredom and a whole host of other reasons. I also learned how different foods affected my mood and energy levels.  Every human body and soul is totally unique and the best thing you can do is get in tune with yours and learn it inside and out.  I realized quickly working as a personal trainer that most people are very disconnected from their physical bodies.  They really spend no time or energy understanding it or tracking its natural ebb and flow.  Buy a small journal that you can carry with you, a small notepad will due. Take it everywhere with you.  Write every single thing you put in to your mouth down in it daily, even a stick of gum, diet soda or tick tac!  Leave nothing out.

Track your sugar, but NOT your calories.  Keep your sugars in check and eat.  Calories in and out do matter, but I find when people focus on calories it is counterproductive for many reasons.  If you are eating all day long, small meals every 3-4 hours you will not be tempted to over eat any way.  To restrict calories to low is counterproductive, as is to have a set amount of calories daily.  It is best to fluctuate your calorie intake from day to day by 500-1000, so that the body does not adjust to a set amount.  Eat naturally, but don’t binge or over indulge.  Again, small meals every 3-4 hours will keep the furnace going and the metabolism revved up. Write down whatever exercise you did that day. Write down how your energy level was that day, high or low?  Write down how you were feeling, happy, stressed, depressed?  Make each page a day and date the page.  If you begin reading your journal entries you will begin to see patterns emerge. You will see emotional reactions that may trigger you to binge on unhealthy foods, you will begin to notice things like after you binged on cookies, the next day you had a headache because your blood sugar got to low. You will begin to see correlations between high energy days and low energy days and the foods you ate on those days.  You will notice all sorts of things about your body, your eating patterns and behaviors and all the mental and emotional issues that you attach to food.  Knowledge is power…observe yourself and learn.

Step Nine:          Patience, Persistence, Perseverance and discipline! It is not realistic to expect these changes to happen in only a few weeks or even months. I used to tell my clients, “If it took you 10 years to gain this much weight you are not going to lose it in 2 months!”  Now that does not mean it takes as long to lose weight as gain it, but the point is it took your body a long time to get out of shape and it will take some time to get it back in to shape.  If you lack the discipline to be patient and persevere than find a way to create and foster the discipline you lack. Of course, as I recommend before a trainer is great for that. A workout buddy is another option.  I paid my trainer long after I knew how to exercise properly for the sheer fact that I did not trust my own discipline. I knew if I was paying to meet him to bust my hump 3 days a week I’d be more likely to show up and do the work. Eventually through the repetition of training with him day in and out, year after year I developed enough discipline to do it on my own. Now, more than 10 years later I still follow the exact same program I have outlined for you here.  This program is part of my life and weekly routine and my weight is a complete non-issue at this point.

Step Ten:             A Reward Day (cheat day) Now, I’m going to tell you that these steps are practical, simple steps in the right direction but they may not be easy. Depending on your current lifestyle, health and eating habits this may be relatively easy or very difficult. Change is never easy even if it represents progress and improvement, change is not easy!  You are making a lifestyle change and that change is not a single choice or moment of decision, it IS a process.   The process will be the culmination of many choices and a commitment to making these choices for the rest of your life.  You WILL fall off the wagon so to speak and you will have good days and some bad.  I promise you though, that if you don’t give up, keep coming back to your center, and making these choices over and over, the bad days will become farther and farther between.  If you do have a bad day, so what!  Start over again the next day and let it go!  DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT spend one minute or thought the next day on what you did the day before, It’s done – let it go…period.  Every day is a new day.  I also believe it is very important to have a reward day once a week. For me that day is Sunday. I have a strict rule, that on vacation, holidays and Sunday’s I eat whatever I want.  Now, let me be clear by holiday, I mean Thanksgiving or Christmas Day meals…..not the month of December and every Christmas celebration of the month. You get the picture. Personally I love birthday cake with butter cream icing and I think life is way too precious and short to not eat birthday cake. So, on my birthday I eat cake!  I don’t cut a small sliver either, I eat as much as I want until I’m so full of cake, that I think to myself I don’t want any more cake for a long time or my next birthday!  I also love ice cream and I am not willing to live my life without the simple pleasure of a little Ben & Jerry’s, so on Sunday’s I eat ice cream.  It is really not a problem for the body to digest ice cream one day a week if that’s what you crave, but it is a problem to have ice cream every night after dinner. I say, have the ice cream but let it be a reward and a treat that you look forward to one day a week.  Of course, insert your favorite food in place of ice cream…but you get the idea.  I am a huge believer in most things in moderation, but you have to know your own limits. If I have ice cream in the freezer I’ll eat it. So, I only buy a small Ben & Jerry’s quart and eat it all in one sitting with none left over because I know if I buy a gallon, I’ll eat a gallon!  If you can’t control yourself, don’t buy it!

Finally, life is short, it’s meant to be enjoyed not endured.  Enjoy your life and enjoy the food you eat.  Take all judgment of who you are off your attachment to food and the fatty deposits on your body.  Do not judge yourself or others for what you or they eat or how much fat you or they have stored.  If you eat because you’re bored, find a hobby. If you eat because you’re lonely, get a dog or join a dating service!  If you eat because you don’t believe you deserve happiness, or love, or because you feel you’re not worthy, then you have to get that right in your head first or nothing else you do will work. Health is about balance and balance must be achieved on every level of the mental, emotional and physical aspects of the individual.

I have touched on several key points to better health and healthy weight in my Blog. I encourage you to take these points and use them as a jumping off point and learn more. There is plenty of information out there on everything I have discussed in this Blog, so get to work!

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My Dear friends,

 On a very personal note, I must write a few words on The Gulf Oil spill. As you know I live on The Gulf Coast of SW Florida by the beach. Prior to living here I lived for over a decade in Key West, FL which you would know if you have read my book. Prior to my life in Florida I grew up in Maryland spending summers at Ocean City and fishing and crabbing as a kid in The Chesapeake Bay. My whole life has been lived by the sea. I have been scuba diving off The Dry Tortugas off of Key West, with wild Dolphin playing around me, and I have seen giant bill fish, whales, loggerhead turtles while fishing and sailing off the keys. I have had Dolphin play in the wake of our boat and just a few feet off the beach that came so close I could almost reach out and touch them. I cannot express to you in words how utterly devastating and sad it is for me to watch this disaster unfold. Two weeks after the explosion of the well in April I began to have dreams about what was happening to sea life, the eco-systems and waters in the Gulf. I woke up at 2am in tears from what I saw beneath the surface.

I am very concerned as I see a great threat to human life as well. I see diseases, health problems in human life on the horizon in some of these coastal areas. I do not want to alarm anyone, but this is very serious and about much much more than oil on beaches and dead birds..as if that were not bad enough. The toxic affects of the spill and chemical dispursents will last LONG after the oil is no longer visible. The Oil will raise the Gulf water temps and affect our weather and possibly makes summer storms much worse. The toxic waters will eventually seep into fresh water drinking supplies and may even affect our power plants. Yes, our power plants! Nuclear and electric power plants need fresh water to run. De-salination plants take the salt out of sea water to provide fresh water and drinking water for much of FL, they cannot run with contaminated sea water. There are enormous amounts of very toxic gases also being released in to our air from this well. I do not feel it will be stopped in August either and will likely gush on to Sept, October…maybe longer. I’m not certain, but I do feel it will go on past August.

I strongly urge everyone to reconsider your postion on energy consumption in our country and specifically off shore drilling. We ALL need fresh water to survive. We are poisoning our air, water and food chain. Even if you live no where near the Gulf this will eventually affect you. Obama had just approved only a few months before the spill, to expand deep water off shore drilling off the coast of Florida, Maryland and Virginia and of course we are already drilling off Alaska. What I am trying to say is that we will soon be drilling off all coasts! These spills happen all over the world often, this is only unusual in its scope of destruction.

There are many options coming on to the market for fully electric and hybrid cars, SUVs and trucks. There is up to a $7,500 Federal tax credit for purchasing these cars. You may save enough money in fuel to cover the car payment. It is projected the world will run out of oil in 50 years, I feel it is more like 25. It is ineveitable that we WILL switch to more efficient and renewable energy, so why not be ahead of the curve. Save money on gas! Protect the oceans and beaches for your children and grandhildren. Please take a stand and write your Representatives…there is no more room for ambiguity and apathy..NOW IS THE TIME. Please, my heart breaks over the massive destruction of life I see happening. For me, it is nearly unbearable. Sea life, animal life, human life and livelihoods are being destroyed with no end in site for what? The price for a gallon of gas….how sad.

Please help turn this tradgedy into a cause for good by doing anything you can to get invloved and take action in whatever small way you can…even if that is only to send us and The Gulf your love and prayers.
with love and blessings,
Denise Lescano

The Messenger by Denise Lescano (Excerpt)
Copyright Denise Lescano 2010 – All Rights Reserved
Available March 2010
Chapter Twelve: The Great Mystery

As difficult as it is for some people to believe that what I do is real or that life goes on after death and that our loved ones are still around us; it is equally as difficult for me to understand why that is so hard to believe. To me, it is so natural. In every religion we are taught to believe that life continues after death. I am just simply saying that Heaven is not a far away place that is separate from our physical world. It is actually right here – all around us. It just exists on a higher frequency of energy. I try to explain this by telling people that I am much like a dog. Yes, a dog.
Imagine you are sitting on your couch watching TV and your dog is lying there next to you when he jumps up suddenly and runs across the room and begins barking at the door. Because he can hear noises outside the door, he is alerting you that there are people in the street in front of your house. A dog’s ears are much more sensitive to sounds than ours, and they can hear things that we can’t. So, just because we can’t hear the sound outside the front door, does not mean that the neighbors are not outside talking. Your dog hears them clearly, in just the same way that I can hear people on the spirit side. I can simply tune into the different frequencies of energy where our loved ones on the spirit side reside.
I am merely saying that we are all still connected, that the illusion of us being separate is just that – an illusion. This illusion has been perpetuated over thousands of years throughout history through fear and misunderstanding, coupled with the never-ending quest for governments, in concert with religion, to control and manipulate the masses.
As for those scientific thinkers among us, Albert Einstein, a well-respected thinker for his theories on Relativity and how energy works, was a master of understanding the natural laws that govern life on earth. He was one of the pioneers who began to understand some of the natural laws that govern the universe and he taught us that energy cannot be destroyed; it simply transforms and changes form. So like water transforms into steam, when the physical body is worn out and breaks down, the soul is released and transforms back into its natural a state of pure energy – one that is on a higher, faster frequency. Our personalities, memories and knowledge continue on because death is absolutely an illusion and not real. The details that spirits bring through in readings are proof that we have memory, consciousness and personality outside of the body and the brain. We are not our brains, or what’s in our brains. Our brains are simply the computer operating systems that run our bodies and allow us to function and experience life here in the physical world.
Physical death is merely a transformation, like water turning into steam, to a different state of being. Water vapor is still made of hydrogen and oxygen but its density and volume change and in our case, our frequency of energy and density changes. Quantum Physics has proven that all things in the world are made of molecules of energy, which are always moving even in the heaviest and most dense solid objects. We are just bundles of energy and everything is different compositions of energy. Similar to a hermit crab that has outgrown its shell, and moves on to find a new one, our bodies are just our shell. Much like if we were to visit the Moon, they are like a “space suit” that we put on so that we can experience life here in the physical world.
We are actually not invisible in spirit form either. Our pets, small children and animals are very capable of seeing our loved ones in spirit when they pay us a visit. Have you ever noticed your cat or dog acting very strangely after the passing of a loved one? My dog has often jumped up suddenly and began barking at a corner of the room, where to the human eye, it appears to be empty. One night, I watched my grandfather in spirit, take a “virtual” cat toy and play with my very much alive cat. The cat jumped and chased the toy all over my couch for three or four minutes while I and my grandfather in spirit laughed. To anyone else, it would have appeared my cat had quite literally gone insane chasing around and pouncing on an invisible cat toy. But I could see clearly what my cat was chasing and who was playing with him. Often times when a toddler tells you she is playing with Grandpa and he’s passed, she is quite literally playing with Grandpa. It is not her imagination or yours; but it is where we most easily see them – in our imaginations and dreams.

Copyright Denise Lescano 2009, All Rights Reserved
Available in bookstores early 2010

Foreword

The following statements are from the three counselors that I have worked with regularly since 2005. Without their willingness to work with me our groundbreaking work together would have never been possible. It is all of our goals and mission to open people’s minds, challenge assumptions and in doing so give people in need of healing and answers some peace and clarity. Each one of them has twenty years of experience in their field of specialty and although people may always question my validity and credibility, no one could ever question theirs. All three have committed their lives and volunteered countless hours tirelessly to helping others. Jane Heady, now retired, facilitated the Grief Support Group for Sudden and Accidental Death and also worked as the Victim’s Advocate for the local State Attorney’s Office while we worked together. Bob Riley facilitates the Suicide Support Group I currently work with and Jerry Eddleman facilitates the Twelve Step Group that I work with. I have also worked over the years with several other grief groups as well as a local chapter of Over Eaters Anonymous.

I have been doing this work long enough to know that everyone wants “proof” that I am real and actually doing what I claim to be doing, so aside from having a reading with me, I hope these statements will suffice as proof that this is indeed a “True Story.”

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Jane Heady-
I am retired now, but for 20 years I worked as a Victim Advocate/Grief Counselor for Mothers Against Drunk Driving and a Crisis Center in Southwest Florida. The clients who came to us for help had lost loved ones due to sudden, tragic death, such as suicide, car crashes, over doses, etc. During my years as a grief counselor for the crisis center in Florida, I had heard many “stories” from my clients about their experiences with mediums. I had never personally had occasion to see a medium and was never quite sure if in fact connecting with loved ones who had gone before us was even possible!

When a client told me that a medium they had seen privately, by the name of Denise Lescano, had offered to do group sessions for our crisis center, I was a bit skeptical. But after careful consideration I hesitantly agreed to facilitate the meetings. In the back of my mind I kept telling myself that it was for the good of my clients-it was what they wanted. I had done some research years before on mystical experiences and looking back on my own life experiences I thought that there might be some truth to connecting with those who have gone before us. However, I was not prepared for what was to come.

I remember vividly the first session with Denise. I think that there were 8 people present that night. The day before the meeting I only told her how many were going to attend. She did not know names or the circumstances of the death of their loved ones. I told her NOTHING. When the session began I was immediately blown away by what I was witnessing. I knew that the readings were true connections from beyond, because there was no way she could know any of the things that were being revealed. I knew these facts to be true because these were clients who had been coming to me for individual sessions and we had talked about these things.

There are so many stories I could tell you from all of the sessions, but a few stand out in my mind. I was counseling a grandmother who was raising her 10 year old grandson after his mother was hit by a car while she was walking. During one session his mother came through and said that she was with him always-she said that she was with him in art class that day and told in detail what he was drawing! She described his bedroom, even down to the glow in the dark stars she had put on his ceiling for him before she died. She told him that she tucks him in bed and that she kisses him each night before he goes to sleep. Can you imagine what that meant to that little boy? Then there was the teenage boy who had died of suicide who told his Mom, “I am so happy that you are wearing my necklace.” She stood up and pulled the chain out from her blouse in amazement. No one could even see that she had a necklace on! He went on to tell her that he was safe and no longer in pain. Imagine how that alone helped her to heal. I vividly remember the spirit of a 24 year old man who had died of a drug overdose. He kept telling his brother that he was worried about him and that he could see he was going down the same road. Two years later, I learned that the brother had also died of an overdose. When I called Denise to tell her she said that she knew because both boys had come to her that day when she was at home!!!

Over the next 2 years, faithfully each month, Denise did group readings for the clients of the crisis center. It was a gift beyond words to those who were in great pain. During the sessions, I would try to write down everything that the spirits were saying to their loved ones and many people carried those notes with them everywhere they went!! I saw what a great comfort it was to them and how it helped tremendously with the healing process. Denise had nothing to gain from these sessions, as she volunteered her time. Words can never express what it meant to those who were hurting. Denise Lescano is one in a million and I am privileged to call her friend.

Jane Heady
Grief Counselor/Victim Advocate-retired

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Jerry Eddleman-
An ancient Roman philosopher, Lucius Annaeus Seneca, once said, “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” With no forethought of my own, my earlier life experiences had prepared me for an opportunity that appeared a few years ago when I met Denise Lescano. Although she says that she never had a penchant for drugs or alcohol in excess, such is not the case with many of us. According to a recent study conducted by the National Institutes of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, 8.5 percent of adults in the United States meet the criteria for alcoholism, and another 2 percent meet the criteria for drug addiction. In other words, at least one in every ten Americans has a serious problem with drugs or alcohol. According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), five million U.S. citizens attended self-help meetings for drug and alcohol related issues and about one-third of those people also attended some form of inpatient or outpatient treatment last year. When considering the impact that alcoholism and drug addiction have on family members, co-workers, neighbors, employers, and health care providers, almost no one escapes completely unscathed. Clearly, these are problems of universal proportions that are affecting the entire human race.
The disease of alcoholism took me on a twenty-two year roller coaster ride from my early teens through my early thirties and left a trail of wreckage that has taken decades to repair. For the past twenty years I have worked diligently, as a layperson, to be of some helpful service to others who are struggling to overcome their addictions. Ever since we began to recognize alcoholism and addictions as treatable illnesses, we’ve made great strides in the areas of medicine, science, and psychology that have contributed significantly to the rehabilitation of millions of people. However, even the most advanced therapies can only go so far, and, in spite of our best efforts, long-term recovery rates are abysmally small.

Successful rehabilitation takes place at physical, mental, and psychological levels. But, we often fail to address another vital aspect of recovery. The critical missing element is “spiritual.” The eminent Swiss psychiatrist, Dr. Carl Jung, wrote:
You see, “alcohol” in Latin is “spiritus” and you use the same word for the highest
Religious experience as well as for the most depraving poison. The helpful formula
therefore is: spiritus contra spiritum.

Experience with the realm of the spirit may be essential to the process of overcoming addictions. Recovery from alcoholism and other addictive disorders is a complex, dynamic process, and in this effort we should not hesitate to use every available tool. Therefore, when I became aware that Denise Lescano was interested in using her psychic gifts to help people to more fully recover from drug addiction and alcoholism, I contacted several friends, and we began to work with her. Our early efforts in recovery were a necessary preparation for what we later learned from Denise. She brought us important messages from “the other side” of life, and we connected to spirit guides who helped us to focus on areas that we needed to work on. For some, it was about healing past trauma or getting honest about current life situations or challenges. She told others about the precise things they needed to do to take better care of their health through dietary and exercise changes. Denise painstakingly addressed each person’s particular recovery needs.

Over the years I have worked with hundreds of people in recovery, and I have learned firsthand what the attrition rates are like. A full fifty percent of those making an initial attempt at sobriety will not still be sober ninety days later, and many more drop by the wayside over the next few months. By the end of the first year, with perhaps a single exception, every graduate of a twenty-eight day treatment program will have relapsed. I know because I was such an exception, and twenty years later the statistics have not improved. Most people simply do not recover, and those of us who do remain abstinent continue to defy the odds on a day-to-day basis.

Initially, I contacted about a dozen men and women that I knew in recovery to see who might be willing to participate in “gallery” type readings with Denise. Interestingly, none of my male friends have thus far been willing (I expect that to change shortly). However, eight women have volunteered to come at various times. Some have visited with Denise on two or more occasions, and some only attended a single session. They represented various lengths of sobriety ranging from six months to over thirty years, with an average of nine to ten years of recovery. Seven of the eight have remained continuously clean and sober during this two year period, and one who relapsed on pain medication is now back in recovery. Do I think that Denise’s talent for bringing information through from the spirit side of life was totally responsible for this statistical miracle? No, not totally, there were many other factors to consider. However, I am entirely satisfied that the information presented to each individual contributed significantly to their self-awareness and gave them additional insights and tools to assist them and enhance the quality of their recoveries. Typically, Denise would offer certain knowledge that “validated” the information being received. For example, she provided C.H. with insights that assured her that she was indeed in contact with her deceased husband. Once that was accomplished, she was given information that was specifically addressed to her, such as the fact that the co-dependency and enabling patterns that she was experiencing with her stepson were mirroring the same issues that she had previously encountered with her late husband, and, if she didn’t get a handle on those issues, they could possibly lead her into relapse. He also assured her that he would be assisting her from spirit and that it would be essential for her to stay closely involved with her recovery groups if she was to remain sober. Finally, he tried to encourage her to not give up “before the miracle happens.” Similarly, Denise gave C.O. validating information from her deceased mother regarding the rabbits her mother had given to her when she was still in the physical body. Once the validation was accepted, her mother went on to discuss a life-threatening illness that C.O. was battling. Her mother told her that the cancer she was currently receiving treatment for was a big part of the cleansing and purging processes that were necessary for her to be able to release her addictions, and other issues, in this lifetime. M.L.’s maternal grandmother discussed with her the details of the recent traumatic break-up of a romantic relationship and then talked specifically about her recovery from alcohol and drug addiction. Her grandmother assured her that she had successfully overcome the larger issues of her addictive behaviors and that all that would be necessary for her to maintain her sobriety would be for her to “stick with the program.”

Denise brought forth specific validating information for each individual in attempts to enhance their recovery efforts. Not once did she offer generic platitudes or repeat information from one person to the next. She provided each person with exactly what they specifically needed to hear that would be of maximum benefit to them as individuals. This was the most therapeutic “counseling” that I have ever witnessed. There was catharsis, healing, and hope for everyone who joined us in these sessions.

Undoubtedly, some will dismiss the possibility of this kind of spiritual assistance; if I hadn’t seen it and benefited from it personally, I might have been one of them. But, to those who may be open to it, I see this as pioneering work with the possibility of greatly enhancing our understanding of the root causes and conditions surrounding the diseases of addiction. It may also increase the probability of many additional recoveries from destructive habits and disorders. No one has ever attempted to use spirit communication to enhance recovery from alcoholism and drug addiction before, and it is exciting to witness these ground-breaking discoveries in rehabilitation. A friend of mine likes to say, “The mind is like a parachute in that it only works when it’s open.” To that I would add Joseph Dunninger’s comment that: “For those who believe, no explanation is necessary; for those who do not, no explanation will suffice.” I consider myself fortunate indeed to be able to share this unique opportunity with someone that, unbeknownst to me, I was previously prepared to work with.

Very truly yours,

Jerry D. Eddleman
Founder and President
The Serenity Club of Naples, Twelve Step Groups

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Bob Riley-
It has been said that all of life is our teacher and we are forever in a classroom. That makes so much sense as we definitely are on a journey in each of our lives. Along the way, my travels crossed paths with a very caring, compassionate and intuitive woman name Denise Lescano. A psychic medium with incredible talents and abilities, she has continuously shown this grief and life coach what a professional medium is about. Over the last 5 years, Denise has demonstrated to me what character, integrity, respect, compassion and sincerity is with a medium who genuinely owns these accolades. I was very honored to have been given this opportunity to describe Denise and her wonderful talents to you.

Being a professional coach who works with people in helping to build their life and assist ones in grief, my focus is on having a no nonsense approach. This is exactly what had impressed me so much about the work Denise does. My observations over the years have been one of absolute pinpoint accuracy she brings to her clients. I have sat with many, many clients through these past 5 years and the work Denise has done with our survivors group is that of “par excel lance”. I have been involved with co-facilitating a survivors group for individuals who have lost someone to suicide. We have been meeting weekly for close to 23 years presently and Denise’s contribution to our members grief walk is beyond compare and unparalleled.

Denise has been tested professionally for being legitimate, which has been very important to her work and reputation. The effects and results generated from her work, that I have observed, are indeed quite phenomenal. I know too well the stories and heartaches our members live with. Denise is never made aware of any knowledge about who she reads for. When she confronts them with factual truth, they know in that moment she has delivered very succinct, personalized information which comes from spirit. Denise has what she refers to as “spiritual integrity” which is giving the clients exactly what spirit is sending without being filtered. I have myself experienced a personal reading with Denise and she was right on the mark. To the skeptics, I say you have the absolute right to your opinion. It is unfortunate with that outlook you will never experience the quality of a connection with a loved one’s spirit that Denise provides.

The lives of our members have been so enriched and nurtured as a result of Denise’s readings. They have discovered very essential information that was lacking since the death of their loved one. So much peace, closure and resolve have been given to so many of our clients. Some messages deal with future events for people to grow into and yet a number of times spirit will bring through situations and information which has taken place, well after the time of their death.

One isolated reading we had was with a son, on the other side, doing his best to persuade his mom that this is real and true by describing his grandmother’s suicide attempt. He described her lying on a bathroom floor, in a pool of blood, due to cutting her wrists. He was working real hard, as was Denise, to convince his mother, in the moment, he and grandma were there wanting to connect with her.   It took her some time to remember the incident, but when she finally did it provided the proof that she needed that the experience was real and was the catalyst which caused a sudden breakthrough in her healing process.

So many lives have been given the glow of satisfaction, validation, love, kinship, awareness and overall spiritual guidance through the genuineness of Denise’s psychic expertise. She is superb, the real deal and believe when I tell you, I willingly place my lifelong reputation on the line in validating her true psychic abilities, since ever first experiencing her reading of spirits.
I would like to present to you her story about the trials and tribulations of a psychic’s life journey. I am both humbled and proud to call this fine, talented, gifted and genuine person, psychic medium Denise Lescano, my dear friend.

Bob Riley
Professional Grief and Life Coach
Facilitator of the Group “SAS” -Surviving After Suicide
http://www.BobRileyCoaching.com

Excerpt from the New Book by Denise Lescano, Copyright Denise Lescano 2009 – All Rights Reserved
Soon to be published and released

Chapter 13: Ghost of Boyfriend Past

I think most of us have that one person, that one heartbreak that we think we will never get over. The one we never forget and always wonder what if? What if we met at another time, or another place or in another situation? We all have that person that we wonder about over the years, if they ever married, where they are and how their life has turned out? At first, after the break up, we try dating other people hoping that they will distract us long enough that we will finally forget about the one that we really love. We hope that if we fall in love with another we will stop loving the one we lost. We convince ourselves that we are better off with out them and remind ourselves of all the things about them that were wrong for us. We try over and over to deny the truth that lies in our heart that we are still deeply in love with that person and we try our hardest to put our best foot forward anyway and keep just moving forward one day at a time. Time goes by, years go by, and eventually we do begin to forget about them and for the most part we pick ourselves up, brush ourselves off and move on with our lives. Until one day, we bump in to them, or an old friend and we are reminded once again of the mark they left on our heart and the impression they left on our soul. We forget the horrible break up, the nasty things that were said that we couldn’t take back, all the mistakes we made when we were younger and inexperienced and we reminisce about the good times and the happy moments when we were in love. We begin to realize that tied in with these old memories are old feelings that are reignited through the emotional resonance of memory. Like taking a roller coaster ride through the past, our emotions are eclipsed by our memories reminding us of those ancient scars, badly healed wounds and secret list of grudges we keep. They are often the moment and emotions still in need of letting go and of forgiveness. Some times the forgiveness is for the other and other times it is for our selves for the mistakes that we or they made on our journey together. As it seems, I had just “bumped in to an old friend” Nick, and the rollercoaster ride had begun. The person that I had spent a lifetime trying to forget and leave behind was suddenly as intimately connected to my life now as he once was 20 years ago.

Spirits have taught me through readings that there is no such thing as failure in a relationship. We learn some of our most valuable lessons through our relationships. We are each others teachers. They remind me as they come through in readings, that we are not victims here we are volunteers and we all choose to participate in our relationship experiences regardless of their outcome. We choose our most significant partners before we are ever born in to this life and we choose each other full well knowing the issues we are both coming together to work on. “Fate” and “Synchronicity” coordinate the timing of our meeting in this lifetime, but believe me there is no chance in who and how we meet one another. We set it all up in advance as part of our plan. Although we arrange our meetings and coming together, we do not necessarily write our outcomes in advance. Much of our outcomes depend on how well we learn our lessons together, if we learn them at the same pace and if we both continue to participate in the class we are taking with one another. Sometimes one of us gets lost, sometimes both of us do. We stumble or we get off track and maybe we even decide to quit the class all together or just graduate to the next level and so we split up. Some times we are not meant to be each others one and only and we were only supposed to meet for a period of time and move on. So, whether we come together for a lifetime, a few months or a few years, all of our relationships are equally important as they are all part of our lesson plan. I also know that we all reincarnate over and over and that we have most likely been through many lifetimes together with our most significant partners working on these issues. In most cases this isn’t our first lifetime together and not likely to be our last either.

The real problems come in for us when we don’t learn or grow from our relationship experiences and we stubbornly stumble along in our unconscious oblivion repeating the same destructive relationship patterns over and over. We keep changing all the players, but are stuck playing the same old game over and over. This is when we begin to feel like the victim, and while stuck in the role of the victim, we don’t realize that all along it has been us who needs to change and grow. So, we keep looking for Mr or Mrs Right thinking that when we find the right one, that special one we will finally be happy in love and in life. Wrong! We have many possible Mr and Mrs Rights and when they don’t work out it is because we are either finished learning from each other what we came together to learn, or that one is growing faster than the other or perhaps we are stuck in some old or dysfunctional pattern. We need to either examine the types of people we are attracted to and why, how we are behaving or what our expectations are in a partner. It is most often us who is looking for all the wrong things in our partner, full of unrealistic or misguided expectations we are quick to point out what is wrong with the other instead of realizing that they are our mirrors, shining back to us what we need to work on about our self.

Well, even with all that being said, it certainly does not lessen the pain of heartbreak and a love that is lost. There is no greater pain than the love that is lost whether it is through a break up or by death. The thing is though, Love is never really lost. Once we are connected by love, no matter what happens in life or after death we will always be connected by that love. It is literally like a cord of light that connects our heart to another’s in eternity and from this side to the other. I have done readings for people that have been married three or four times and will invariable have a first husband come in to a reading from a brief and young marriage. A 65 year old woman who has been married several times will be surprised that this first husband now passed will come in to her reading to say hello. I will explain to her that once we are linked by love we are always linked, love is the karmic tie that keeps us together working things out, from this lifetime to the next. There is nothing stronger than the bond of love, not even hate can break the bonds of love, not really. Because even relationships that became estranged in life, where people have disconnected completely and are no longer speaking, will reconnect again after death to sort things out and get closure and finish what they came to do together. Have you noticed that some of our most difficult relationships exist within our family of origin, with our parents and our siblings? That is because those family ties of Love are the hardest to sever. They keep us together in the most difficult of circumstances trying to work through our issues. We choose to be in relationships with difficult people in our families because we know that we would never work that hard for anyone else in our lives and we also know that they have something very important to teach us. Sometimes they teach us by showing us what to do and sometimes they teach us by showing what not to do first. If it were not for the fact that they are our parent or a child for example, we would be much more likely to throw in the towel and walk away.

-by Denise Lescano
-Copyright Denise Lescano 2009

“In the midst of the greatest adversity is tremendous opportunity for those creative enough & with the vision to see it- Adversity inspire innovation and new directions”-DLescano

“Depression is often a symptom of not living your life in alignment with who you really are and instead living a life in fear or for others-DLescano. Pills don’t cure depression; they just make your misery more manageable. If you want to cure depression, than have the courage and commitment to change your life.
This is your life and you are the only one who has to live it, so make sure you are living the life of your choice. We are not victims here, we are volunteers. We will always have adversity, but that is quite a different thing than living a life you hate. Don’t waste time, tomorrow is promised to know one. You came here for a reason…what is it?” -DLescano

“Don’t live a life in Fear; it is a total waste of perfectly good energy. Let adversity inspire innovation and create the life you imagine.” -DLescano

“The problem with material wealth is that at some point the things you own may begin to own you.-Do you live for “what you have or who you are?” -DLescano

“What other people think about you and how you live your life is not nearly as important as what you think about you and how you live your life.”You” are the ONLY one who has to “live your life” so live it the way you see fit, regardless of what anyone else thinks about it. Living in accordance with who you really are will set you free.” -DLescano

“No matter what happens today, whether you are happy or miserable about it is “your choice”. Your life experience is your choice, the result and culmination of all your choices, so choose wisely …life is short -chose to be happy and live the life that will fulfill you!”-DLescano

“My Dog is just so awesome. I just love him so much! He is just such a good dog, in some ways better than my hubby and son. LOL He never rolls his eyes, ALWAYS listens attentively when I talk to him, is always just so darn happy to see me, waits patiently for me to get ready, never argues and as my son says “he just fills the house with love” I have to agree!”
-DLescano

“Forgiveness does not absolve another from responsibility and accountability”-DLescano

“Forgiveness is a Gift you give ‘yourself’ that releases ‘You’ from the toxic ties that bind you to another in unhealthy and toxic ways. If you choose to share the gift with the other, then that is your choice, but first and foremost Forgiveness is for your benefit not the other.” -DLescano

“Sometimes we are here to learn, other times we are here to teach, but we are all here in school to help one another.” -DLescano

“All of Life conspires to teach us something. When things are not going the way you want, ask yourself…are you getting the lesson?” -DLescano

“Successful people do not get down when faced with difficulty, they seize the opportunity to step back, regroup, rethink and innovate! Adversity is nature’s way of stimulating new growth by causing us to prune all that has become obsolete in our lives therefore stimulating new growth and new directions.” – DLescano

“Within every obstacle/setback is great opportunity for those creative enough to see it. Adversity inspires innovation!” -DLescano

“Your reality is not a circumstance of fate; it is your creation by choice. We are not victims here in life -we are volunteers” DLescano

“Happiness is a subjective state of mind based on perspective”-DLescano

“Outer abundance is a reflection of inner abundance. Abundance is not wealth and wealth is not necessarily abundance. Wealth is only one facet of abundance. To find true happiness and peace it is important to know the difference. True abundance that leads to happiness is an abundance of love, both giving and receiving. Some of the wealthiest people I know live in a constant state of lack or fear of lack. To focus only on the abundance of wealth leaves the soul in a state of lack and starving for love, life and real fulfillment. To feed the soul we need a balanced diet of life, to only feed our souls with money is like eating a junk food diet. It leaves you feeling empty, unfulfilled and creates an insatiable appetite for more. If we all cultivated the abundance of life, love and family how much richer our worlds would really be. Think about it.” -DLescano

“I still remember “my” first reading with a Medium. She told me about a special very sentimental hat that I wore to my grandfather’s funeral and how my grandfather had liked that I wore that hat. He used to call it a “go to hell hat” which the flappers wore back in the roaring twenties during prohibition. He had always loved when I wore the hat which is why I wore it to his funeral. No one knew that but he and I, so when she told me that I “knew” it was him. it was proof. That moment changed my life forever and it was the turning point of my life. It was the first time I had met someone who could see spirits like I did. It was the first time I realized I was not crazy and from that moment I wanted to do what she did for other people. I began taking classes to learn all I could with her and I eventually fine tuned my abilities to the point where I now do what I do. I remember she told me many years ago one day I would do what she does. At the time, I was like NO WAY…but here I am.”-DLescano

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Outer abundance is a reflection of inner abundance. Abundance is not wealth and wealth is not necessarily abundance. Wealth is only one facet of abundance. To find true happiness and peace it is important to know the difference. True abundance that leads to happiness is an abundance of love, both giving and receiving. Some of the wealthiest people I know live in a constant state of lack or fear of lack. To focus only on the abundance of wealth leaves the soul in a state of lack and starving for love, life and real fullfillment. To feed the soul we need a balanced diet of life, to only feed our souls with money is like eating a junk food diet. It leaves you feeling empty, unfullfilled and creates an insatiable appetite for more. If we all cultivated the abundance of life, love and family how much richer our worlds would really be. Think about it.