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10 Practical Effective Steps to sustainable fat loss & mind/ body health

By Denise Lescano, Author of the Messenger Copyright 2010 www.deniselescano.com for more info

Denise is an Intuitive Consultant, Medical Intuitive and Author. Prior to her consulting career, Denise worked professionally for several years as a licensed and certified personal fitness trainer and nutritional advisor in FL; Certified thru the National Federation of Professional Trainers, NFPT.  Denise has worked as a martial arts instructor and also trained for amateur competitions in the NPC as a figure/fitness competitor.

Losing weight and keeping it off is probably one of the most talked about subjects in our society today. Obesity and manmade disease have not only become accepted in our culture as the norm, they have become an epidemic and bi-product of self- destructive behavior that we are now passing along to our children.  I’m here to tell you that you do not need to buy in to the hype of this diet or that, the latest exercise gadget, fitness fad or diet pill. Losing weight and keeping it off is really quite simple.  Prior to working as a consultant, I worked several years as a licensed and certified Personal Trainer (NFPT) and nutritional advisor.  In addition to dropping 35 lbs over 10 years ago myself and keeping it off, I have helped many others to do the same.  If you follow the steps that I outline here, I guarantee you will lose excess body fat, keep it off and become healthier physically, emotionally and mentally in the process. 

First and foremost, I want you to remember that this is about making a life style change; it’s not about the latest diet or fitness fad.  Success requires that you commit to changing your “life” not just your body, but by doing so know that you will also change your body as a result.  All change requires discipline. Some of us have never been tutored in, or mastered the principles of discipline, so I will give you some tips to help you with that too if you are lacking in that department.  I can tell you I certainly was when I began a healthy lifestyle many years ago.   As a medical intuitive, spirit gives me a very unique and penetrating insight in to the diseases of the physical body. I have learned though my work that we create many of our diseases and they are manifested in our bodies as a result of our thoughts, emotions and lifestyle choices.  I’m not saying that we create all disease; of course some diseases have genetic, hereditary and unavoidable origins. However, even in the case that the disease is unavoidable as some are, we have much more control of our healing process than we generally realize.  The body has a tremendous ability to repair and heal itself when given a proper diet of healthy food, emotions and thoughts.

Before we move on to the 10 steps to a healthier you, it is important to understand that health and healthy sustainable weight are 100% an issue of “balance.” The body is a finely tuned biological machine that requires regular maintenance to remain in balance and functioning properly. It is also vital to recognize that our thoughts, feelings and actions are an equal and essential part of the balance, not just the food we put in to our mouths.

If you follow and commit to making these steps an everyday part of your life, you WILL lose weight, keep it off and be much healthier physically, mentally and emotionally for it…I promise!

Step One:            Stop eating “processed foods” completely.  Processed foods are everything from fast food, prepared frozen dinners, and prepared boxed foods, micro-wave dinners to eating at many of our favorite chain restaurants.  I don’t care if the label says “Healthy Choice”, fat free, 100 calorie snack pack; no sugar added blah blah blah. If it is in a bag, that’s in a box, or already prepared, or precooked don’t buy it and don’t eat it! All of these foods are overloaded with Hydrogenated Oils (Trans fats), High Fructose Corn Syrup, Sugars, MSG and harmful amounts of salt and preservatives.  Without boring you with too many technicalities, here is the skinny on why I’m so against these ingredients and processed foods. “Trans fats” (hydrogenated & partially-hydrogenated oils) are fats that are molecularly altered by man in a lab to give cookies, breads and other processed foods a longer shelf life and a soft or creamy consistency. They can do this because naturally occurring bacteria cannot break them down and digest them which prevent them from getting stale.  The problem for us is neither can our bodies break them down and digest them! They thicken our cell walls and prevent vital, health sustaining and cancer preventing nutrients from entering the cell. These nutrients (essential fatty acids & antioxidants) are what the body uses to repair damaged cells and prevent cancer from growing. Trans fats are one of the big causes of cancer in our country and that is a fact.  High Fructose Corn Syrup & corn syrup are up to 10 times as sweet as sugar. They cause huge insulin spikes in the body and if ingested enough, for long enough will lead to high blood sugar and eventually on to type II diabetes.  They are directly contributing to obesity.  MSG has a whole range of health problems it causes, but most common are headaches and fluid retention.  We all know that high levels of sodium contribute to heart disease and high blood pressure.  Preservatives have wide and varied health consequences as well. Get in the habit of reading the “Ingredients” in what you buy and look for these items. They are not always listed in the nutritional panel.  A label can say “0 trans fats” if there is less than 1gram per serving and still have trans fats in it, plus who eats only one serving?

Buy uncooked meat and cook it yourself. If you can afford organic meat- buy it. Our meats are pumped with growth hormone, steroids and antibiotics.  Growth hormone is what body builders take to “gain weight”.  When we eat meat pumped with hormones we are also eating those hormones. Buy fresh or frozen veggies and cook them yourself.  I cook all of my meals and am quite good at cooking things in 10-20 minutes. I rarely ever eat processed foods or buy them for my family and I don’t eat out very often either.  What did you say, “You don’t have the time?” Then I say, “Find the time…make the time!” Readjust your priorities, for your health and your family’s health. Don’t buy fruit rolls for your kids, buy fruit!  Get the idea?

Step Two:            Cut way back on ALL wheat products and Sugar, and eliminate processed wheat & sugar products altogether.  I don’t care what you were taught in school about the food pyramid, forget it. It’s wrong!  There are many problems with the processed wheat that is used in food today, bread, cookies and pasta for example. I’ll let you research those on your own, but believe me when I tell you the bread you buy today is not what our ancestors ate 100 years ago and it is NOT good for you!.If you must eat bread limit your intake and buy it from the bakery. Buy only whole grain bread and avoid the ones sold in bags in the center aisle of the grocery store.  Many people have sensitivities to wheat products and don’t even know it. Wheat will cause water retention, weight gain, Candida (yeast in the digestive track) and all sorts of other problems if overeaten.  If you constantly have a bloated belly or constipation and have no other medical issues in those areas, you probably are sensitive to wheat or over eating wheat products.  Cut way back on Sugars.  Sugar is an addiction in our country.  The epidemic of obesity and type II diabetes in our country is proof of it.  The problem is many people are eating huge amounts of sugar everyday and not even aware of it. There are hidden sugars in processed foods.  A common ingredient, Corn Syrup is just a very dense form of sugar.  Sugar and corn syrup are both put in to almost anything processed, even if it doesn’t taste sweet.  I recommend for most folks to try and consume not more than between 50-75 grams of sugar a day for health.  If you are trying to lose weight then you may need to stay closer to 25-50grams.  If you are very active you may be able to get away with 50-100 a few days per week.  You will probably be shocked to see how much sugar you actually consume when you begin tracking this. This is MOST Important** Never “drink” sugar!!!  This includes sodas, as well as, juice and sweet coffee drinks.  I also recommend not more than 1-2 cans of diet soda a day.  If you use sweeteners for your coffee or tea switch to all natural Stevia versions and get away from Splenda, Sweet N Low, Equal and other chemical substitutes for sugar.  You hear it a lot, but it’s a better idea to get used to drinking more water.  Professional athletes have understood for decades that Insulin is the hormone in the body that triggers the body to store energy consumed as body fat. Did you get that?  Insulin tells the body to store calories eaten as body fat.  Sugar eaten releases insulin. The more sugar eaten the more insulin, the more fat stored.  Read up on the Glycemic Foods index and stay away from high glycemic foods. These foods ABSOLUTLEY contribute directly to weight gain, obesity, insulin resistance and type II diabetes.  Also, realize that included in sugars is fruit. If trying to lose weight you will need to limit fruits until you reach a desired weight, and then you can reintroduce them in small amounts for maintenance. An added bonus, if you refrain from eating sweets at least 3-4 hours before bed your body will naturally burn body fat for fuel while you sleep!

Step Three:        Eat more lean protein and fiber. Simply put, protein is the building block of the body’s muscle, organs and skin.  It is also very difficult for the body to turn protein in to fat.  The best sources of protein are lean animal meats, eggs, oats and nuts.  The body also has to work very hard digesting protein and Fiber rich foods and in some cases burns more calories in digestion that are actually in the food.  Fiber rich foods like broccoli, strawberries and nuts for example are very molecularly dense in addition to being full of fiber, so they take more energy to break down and digest.  Fiber keeps the digestive track clean and healthy.  A brief note about Vitamins** Vitamins are another complex topic altogether, but for practical purposes I recommend a good multi-vitamin, with extra supplements of antioxidant vitamins  A, C & E, a good B-Complex and a good EFA supplement as a foundation for some extra nutritional insurance.

Step Four:           Walk for at least 30-45 minutes a day, at least 5 days per week.   It is a fact that walking is the most efficient quickest way to lose excess body fat. Yes, walking….not running, not biking, not step class or dance aerobics…but walking!  “Why?” you ask, “But I sweat so much more when I’m running or spinning?”  Yes, but high energy cardio activities such as running and spinning burn up mostly the glucose (sugar) that is stored up in the liver, not body fat. The higher the intensity of cardio and the harder you breathe, the faster the body needs an uptake of fuel to power the body.  So, the body goes straight for the sugar reserves stored in the liver. While great for the heart and lungs, high intensity aerobics are not as effective at burning body fat and actually often burn up vital muscle mass in the process.  Walking requires a much slower uptake of energy and after about the first 20 minutes of walking, the body begins to tap into its reserves of stored body fat. This is why I recommend walking for 45 minutes or even 60 minutes if you have the time.

Step Five:            Weight Train 2-3 days per week.  Believe me when I tell you, especially the lady’s please listen up, weight training will do far more to shape your body than aerobics class ever will!  I am very serious, and I don’t want to upset my fitness class instructors out there!  Fitness class is great for fitness, but the most effective way to reshape and tone the body is through weight training. The other more important point is that muscle mass regulates metabolism. A pound of muscle requires four times the amount of energy (food) to survive as a pound of fat.  The more muscle you have the higher your metabolism, the more you can eat!  Cardio raises metabolism ONLY while you are doing it, muscle mass raises your metabolism all day and even while you sleep!  Most people do not know that after the age of 30 our muscle mass will naturally shrink roughly 10% every 10 years if we do not do anything to maintain it. That means an inactive 60 year old woman who is the same weight she was in her 20’s now has 30% more fat and 30% less muscle than she had at 20 even if she is the same weight of 125lbs.  This is one of the reasons why we get “flabbier” as we age.  By weight training we can keep from losing muscle and even grow more muscle mass at any age.  The key is, you cannot just go through the motions on the machine…you really need to push yourself, increase your weight over time and lift weights to “build muscle”. For the ladies reading this, I will assure you with 100% certainty that you will not bulk up. I spent many years bodybuilding and I will tell you it is very difficult to put on large amounts of muscle, especially for woman. The woman you see in fitness magazines are working out several hours a day and eat very strict diets to look the way they do.  You do not have to worry about bulking up.  I would also like to make a suggestion, if you don’t know how to weight train properly – hire a licensed Personal Trainer who does to teach you!  I used to tell my clients, “you would never attempt to work on your own car, refrigerator or TV; you would hire a professional who knows how these things work. Your body is so much more complicated than any of these things.  Proper form in an exercise is absolutely the difference between results, no results and injury.  In the gym I’ve watched people come day after day and gain no results because they really had no idea what they were doing. It is really worth it to hire someone to teach you and learn the right way to weight train. You will avoid injuries and damage to your joints and you will see results much quicker. I hired a trainer before I ever became one and trained with him for years. However, you don’t need to do that. I recommend hiring a trainer for 3-6 sessions to learn proper form and a personalized routine. He/she should also write down for you a routine that you can follow on your own. Then, meet with your trainer every 2-3 months so they can assess your progress and prescribe a new regimen.  Otherwise, the body will quickly adjust to the routine and will not continue to grow.  A good trainer is money well spent. What my trainer taught me is invaluable and will last me for the rest of my life. 

Step Six:              Eat!  Eat and enjoy eating!  Eat for your health and “eat to lose weight.”  Eat small meals every 3-4 hours all day long. DON’T ever “not eat” or skip meals.  The body is like a furnace and if you don’t feed it the fire goes out and the furnace shuts down. The best way to keep the metabolism revved up is too eat all day long!  Do you know it takes more calories to digest a piece of broccoli than is even in the broccoli, so you can eat broccoli all day long and lose weight doing it!  The key is to keep a stable even blood sugar, all day long. When we don’t eat blood sugar drops which leads to fatigue and cravings. Then to compensate we over eat and insulin spikes and we begin a rollercoaster ride of overeating and fat storage. So, bottom line, eat all day long every 3-4 hours, small meals and healthy snacks. This will require you to plan ahead. Carry in your bag, car or to work, things you can eat quickly. For me, I take along nuts, protein bars, fruits, boiled eggs, trail mix or anything else I can put in a baggie.  A meal for me might be a handful of cashews, a protein bar, or two boiled eggs for example.

Step Seven:        Focus your thoughts on eating, not “not eating.”  This is a very simple, obvious point that many people just don’t get.  Read it again.  In my experience of training woman and men, I found that woman have the most difficult time with this.  You have a choice, you can either obsess and focus all day long on the fact that you can’t eat Oreo cookies, your favorite snack or you can choose to focus on everything you can now eat without guilt!  Filet Mignon, Shrimp, cashews, and strawberries…or whatever you love. Focus on what you can eat and what you love to eat.  Focus on the fact that you are now eating for health; you are feeding your body, mind and soul with nourishment. Do not focus on any aspect of deprivation, starvation or losing weight > this is all focusing on “lack” and will keep you feeling in a state of lack and sacrifice and feeling deprived. This is not about sacrifice!  This is about gaining health, gaining muscle tone, abundance, nourishment; joy in eating and feeding yourself not only healthy foods but healthy thoughts and intentions.  Everything you do or don’t do starts in your head. If you don’t get your head right in the beginning, you will self sabotage and even the best trainer will not keep you on track. Start by getting your head straight!

Step Eight:          Keep a Journal.  This will do wonders to help you get your head straight by pinpointing what triggers you to veer off in to unhealthy self-sabotaging behaviors.  I kept a journal for a year once I initially started on my own journey to better health.  In doing so, I learned a mountain of information about myself that had nothing to do with food!  I learned through my own journaling and training my clients that people very rarely eat for hunger and more often eat for stress, depression, loneliness, boredom and a whole host of other reasons. I also learned how different foods affected my mood and energy levels.  Every human body and soul is totally unique and the best thing you can do is get in tune with yours and learn it inside and out.  I realized quickly working as a personal trainer that most people are very disconnected from their physical bodies.  They really spend no time or energy understanding it or tracking its natural ebb and flow.  Buy a small journal that you can carry with you, a small notepad will due. Take it everywhere with you.  Write every single thing you put in to your mouth down in it daily, even a stick of gum, diet soda or tick tac!  Leave nothing out.

Track your sugar, but NOT your calories.  Keep your sugars in check and eat.  Calories in and out do matter, but I find when people focus on calories it is counterproductive for many reasons.  If you are eating all day long, small meals every 3-4 hours you will not be tempted to over eat any way.  To restrict calories to low is counterproductive, as is to have a set amount of calories daily.  It is best to fluctuate your calorie intake from day to day by 500-1000, so that the body does not adjust to a set amount.  Eat naturally, but don’t binge or over indulge.  Again, small meals every 3-4 hours will keep the furnace going and the metabolism revved up. Write down whatever exercise you did that day. Write down how your energy level was that day, high or low?  Write down how you were feeling, happy, stressed, depressed?  Make each page a day and date the page.  If you begin reading your journal entries you will begin to see patterns emerge. You will see emotional reactions that may trigger you to binge on unhealthy foods, you will begin to notice things like after you binged on cookies, the next day you had a headache because your blood sugar got to low. You will begin to see correlations between high energy days and low energy days and the foods you ate on those days.  You will notice all sorts of things about your body, your eating patterns and behaviors and all the mental and emotional issues that you attach to food.  Knowledge is power…observe yourself and learn.

Step Nine:          Patience, Persistence, Perseverance and discipline! It is not realistic to expect these changes to happen in only a few weeks or even months. I used to tell my clients, “If it took you 10 years to gain this much weight you are not going to lose it in 2 months!”  Now that does not mean it takes as long to lose weight as gain it, but the point is it took your body a long time to get out of shape and it will take some time to get it back in to shape.  If you lack the discipline to be patient and persevere than find a way to create and foster the discipline you lack. Of course, as I recommend before a trainer is great for that. A workout buddy is another option.  I paid my trainer long after I knew how to exercise properly for the sheer fact that I did not trust my own discipline. I knew if I was paying to meet him to bust my hump 3 days a week I’d be more likely to show up and do the work. Eventually through the repetition of training with him day in and out, year after year I developed enough discipline to do it on my own. Now, more than 10 years later I still follow the exact same program I have outlined for you here.  This program is part of my life and weekly routine and my weight is a complete non-issue at this point.

Step Ten:             A Reward Day (cheat day) Now, I’m going to tell you that these steps are practical, simple steps in the right direction but they may not be easy. Depending on your current lifestyle, health and eating habits this may be relatively easy or very difficult. Change is never easy even if it represents progress and improvement, change is not easy!  You are making a lifestyle change and that change is not a single choice or moment of decision, it IS a process.   The process will be the culmination of many choices and a commitment to making these choices for the rest of your life.  You WILL fall off the wagon so to speak and you will have good days and some bad.  I promise you though, that if you don’t give up, keep coming back to your center, and making these choices over and over, the bad days will become farther and farther between.  If you do have a bad day, so what!  Start over again the next day and let it go!  DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT spend one minute or thought the next day on what you did the day before, It’s done – let it go…period.  Every day is a new day.  I also believe it is very important to have a reward day once a week. For me that day is Sunday. I have a strict rule, that on vacation, holidays and Sunday’s I eat whatever I want.  Now, let me be clear by holiday, I mean Thanksgiving or Christmas Day meals…..not the month of December and every Christmas celebration of the month. You get the picture. Personally I love birthday cake with butter cream icing and I think life is way too precious and short to not eat birthday cake. So, on my birthday I eat cake!  I don’t cut a small sliver either, I eat as much as I want until I’m so full of cake, that I think to myself I don’t want any more cake for a long time or my next birthday!  I also love ice cream and I am not willing to live my life without the simple pleasure of a little Ben & Jerry’s, so on Sunday’s I eat ice cream.  It is really not a problem for the body to digest ice cream one day a week if that’s what you crave, but it is a problem to have ice cream every night after dinner. I say, have the ice cream but let it be a reward and a treat that you look forward to one day a week.  Of course, insert your favorite food in place of ice cream…but you get the idea.  I am a huge believer in most things in moderation, but you have to know your own limits. If I have ice cream in the freezer I’ll eat it. So, I only buy a small Ben & Jerry’s quart and eat it all in one sitting with none left over because I know if I buy a gallon, I’ll eat a gallon!  If you can’t control yourself, don’t buy it!

Finally, life is short, it’s meant to be enjoyed not endured.  Enjoy your life and enjoy the food you eat.  Take all judgment of who you are off your attachment to food and the fatty deposits on your body.  Do not judge yourself or others for what you or they eat or how much fat you or they have stored.  If you eat because you’re bored, find a hobby. If you eat because you’re lonely, get a dog or join a dating service!  If you eat because you don’t believe you deserve happiness, or love, or because you feel you’re not worthy, then you have to get that right in your head first or nothing else you do will work. Health is about balance and balance must be achieved on every level of the mental, emotional and physical aspects of the individual.

I have touched on several key points to better health and healthy weight in my Blog. I encourage you to take these points and use them as a jumping off point and learn more. There is plenty of information out there on everything I have discussed in this Blog, so get to work!

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My Dear friends,

 On a very personal note, I must write a few words on The Gulf Oil spill. As you know I live on The Gulf Coast of SW Florida by the beach. Prior to living here I lived for over a decade in Key West, FL which you would know if you have read my book. Prior to my life in Florida I grew up in Maryland spending summers at Ocean City and fishing and crabbing as a kid in The Chesapeake Bay. My whole life has been lived by the sea. I have been scuba diving off The Dry Tortugas off of Key West, with wild Dolphin playing around me, and I have seen giant bill fish, whales, loggerhead turtles while fishing and sailing off the keys. I have had Dolphin play in the wake of our boat and just a few feet off the beach that came so close I could almost reach out and touch them. I cannot express to you in words how utterly devastating and sad it is for me to watch this disaster unfold. Two weeks after the explosion of the well in April I began to have dreams about what was happening to sea life, the eco-systems and waters in the Gulf. I woke up at 2am in tears from what I saw beneath the surface.

I am very concerned as I see a great threat to human life as well. I see diseases, health problems in human life on the horizon in some of these coastal areas. I do not want to alarm anyone, but this is very serious and about much much more than oil on beaches and dead birds..as if that were not bad enough. The toxic affects of the spill and chemical dispursents will last LONG after the oil is no longer visible. The Oil will raise the Gulf water temps and affect our weather and possibly makes summer storms much worse. The toxic waters will eventually seep into fresh water drinking supplies and may even affect our power plants. Yes, our power plants! Nuclear and electric power plants need fresh water to run. De-salination plants take the salt out of sea water to provide fresh water and drinking water for much of FL, they cannot run with contaminated sea water. There are enormous amounts of very toxic gases also being released in to our air from this well. I do not feel it will be stopped in August either and will likely gush on to Sept, October…maybe longer. I’m not certain, but I do feel it will go on past August.

I strongly urge everyone to reconsider your postion on energy consumption in our country and specifically off shore drilling. We ALL need fresh water to survive. We are poisoning our air, water and food chain. Even if you live no where near the Gulf this will eventually affect you. Obama had just approved only a few months before the spill, to expand deep water off shore drilling off the coast of Florida, Maryland and Virginia and of course we are already drilling off Alaska. What I am trying to say is that we will soon be drilling off all coasts! These spills happen all over the world often, this is only unusual in its scope of destruction.

There are many options coming on to the market for fully electric and hybrid cars, SUVs and trucks. There is up to a $7,500 Federal tax credit for purchasing these cars. You may save enough money in fuel to cover the car payment. It is projected the world will run out of oil in 50 years, I feel it is more like 25. It is ineveitable that we WILL switch to more efficient and renewable energy, so why not be ahead of the curve. Save money on gas! Protect the oceans and beaches for your children and grandhildren. Please take a stand and write your Representatives…there is no more room for ambiguity and apathy..NOW IS THE TIME. Please, my heart breaks over the massive destruction of life I see happening. For me, it is nearly unbearable. Sea life, animal life, human life and livelihoods are being destroyed with no end in site for what? The price for a gallon of gas….how sad.

Please help turn this tradgedy into a cause for good by doing anything you can to get invloved and take action in whatever small way you can…even if that is only to send us and The Gulf your love and prayers.
with love and blessings,
Denise Lescano

The Messenger by Denise Lescano (Excerpt)
Copyright Denise Lescano 2010 – All Rights Reserved
Available March 2010
Chapter Twelve: The Great Mystery

As difficult as it is for some people to believe that what I do is real or that life goes on after death and that our loved ones are still around us; it is equally as difficult for me to understand why that is so hard to believe. To me, it is so natural. In every religion we are taught to believe that life continues after death. I am just simply saying that Heaven is not a far away place that is separate from our physical world. It is actually right here – all around us. It just exists on a higher frequency of energy. I try to explain this by telling people that I am much like a dog. Yes, a dog.
Imagine you are sitting on your couch watching TV and your dog is lying there next to you when he jumps up suddenly and runs across the room and begins barking at the door. Because he can hear noises outside the door, he is alerting you that there are people in the street in front of your house. A dog’s ears are much more sensitive to sounds than ours, and they can hear things that we can’t. So, just because we can’t hear the sound outside the front door, does not mean that the neighbors are not outside talking. Your dog hears them clearly, in just the same way that I can hear people on the spirit side. I can simply tune into the different frequencies of energy where our loved ones on the spirit side reside.
I am merely saying that we are all still connected, that the illusion of us being separate is just that – an illusion. This illusion has been perpetuated over thousands of years throughout history through fear and misunderstanding, coupled with the never-ending quest for governments, in concert with religion, to control and manipulate the masses.
As for those scientific thinkers among us, Albert Einstein, a well-respected thinker for his theories on Relativity and how energy works, was a master of understanding the natural laws that govern life on earth. He was one of the pioneers who began to understand some of the natural laws that govern the universe and he taught us that energy cannot be destroyed; it simply transforms and changes form. So like water transforms into steam, when the physical body is worn out and breaks down, the soul is released and transforms back into its natural a state of pure energy – one that is on a higher, faster frequency. Our personalities, memories and knowledge continue on because death is absolutely an illusion and not real. The details that spirits bring through in readings are proof that we have memory, consciousness and personality outside of the body and the brain. We are not our brains, or what’s in our brains. Our brains are simply the computer operating systems that run our bodies and allow us to function and experience life here in the physical world.
Physical death is merely a transformation, like water turning into steam, to a different state of being. Water vapor is still made of hydrogen and oxygen but its density and volume change and in our case, our frequency of energy and density changes. Quantum Physics has proven that all things in the world are made of molecules of energy, which are always moving even in the heaviest and most dense solid objects. We are just bundles of energy and everything is different compositions of energy. Similar to a hermit crab that has outgrown its shell, and moves on to find a new one, our bodies are just our shell. Much like if we were to visit the Moon, they are like a “space suit” that we put on so that we can experience life here in the physical world.
We are actually not invisible in spirit form either. Our pets, small children and animals are very capable of seeing our loved ones in spirit when they pay us a visit. Have you ever noticed your cat or dog acting very strangely after the passing of a loved one? My dog has often jumped up suddenly and began barking at a corner of the room, where to the human eye, it appears to be empty. One night, I watched my grandfather in spirit, take a “virtual” cat toy and play with my very much alive cat. The cat jumped and chased the toy all over my couch for three or four minutes while I and my grandfather in spirit laughed. To anyone else, it would have appeared my cat had quite literally gone insane chasing around and pouncing on an invisible cat toy. But I could see clearly what my cat was chasing and who was playing with him. Often times when a toddler tells you she is playing with Grandpa and he’s passed, she is quite literally playing with Grandpa. It is not her imagination or yours; but it is where we most easily see them – in our imaginations and dreams.

Copyright Denise Lescano 2009, All Rights Reserved
Available in bookstores early 2010

Foreword

The following statements are from the three counselors that I have worked with regularly since 2005. Without their willingness to work with me our groundbreaking work together would have never been possible. It is all of our goals and mission to open people’s minds, challenge assumptions and in doing so give people in need of healing and answers some peace and clarity. Each one of them has twenty years of experience in their field of specialty and although people may always question my validity and credibility, no one could ever question theirs. All three have committed their lives and volunteered countless hours tirelessly to helping others. Jane Heady, now retired, facilitated the Grief Support Group for Sudden and Accidental Death and also worked as the Victim’s Advocate for the local State Attorney’s Office while we worked together. Bob Riley facilitates the Suicide Support Group I currently work with and Jerry Eddleman facilitates the Twelve Step Group that I work with. I have also worked over the years with several other grief groups as well as a local chapter of Over Eaters Anonymous.

I have been doing this work long enough to know that everyone wants “proof” that I am real and actually doing what I claim to be doing, so aside from having a reading with me, I hope these statements will suffice as proof that this is indeed a “True Story.”

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Jane Heady-
I am retired now, but for 20 years I worked as a Victim Advocate/Grief Counselor for Mothers Against Drunk Driving and a Crisis Center in Southwest Florida. The clients who came to us for help had lost loved ones due to sudden, tragic death, such as suicide, car crashes, over doses, etc. During my years as a grief counselor for the crisis center in Florida, I had heard many “stories” from my clients about their experiences with mediums. I had never personally had occasion to see a medium and was never quite sure if in fact connecting with loved ones who had gone before us was even possible!

When a client told me that a medium they had seen privately, by the name of Denise Lescano, had offered to do group sessions for our crisis center, I was a bit skeptical. But after careful consideration I hesitantly agreed to facilitate the meetings. In the back of my mind I kept telling myself that it was for the good of my clients-it was what they wanted. I had done some research years before on mystical experiences and looking back on my own life experiences I thought that there might be some truth to connecting with those who have gone before us. However, I was not prepared for what was to come.

I remember vividly the first session with Denise. I think that there were 8 people present that night. The day before the meeting I only told her how many were going to attend. She did not know names or the circumstances of the death of their loved ones. I told her NOTHING. When the session began I was immediately blown away by what I was witnessing. I knew that the readings were true connections from beyond, because there was no way she could know any of the things that were being revealed. I knew these facts to be true because these were clients who had been coming to me for individual sessions and we had talked about these things.

There are so many stories I could tell you from all of the sessions, but a few stand out in my mind. I was counseling a grandmother who was raising her 10 year old grandson after his mother was hit by a car while she was walking. During one session his mother came through and said that she was with him always-she said that she was with him in art class that day and told in detail what he was drawing! She described his bedroom, even down to the glow in the dark stars she had put on his ceiling for him before she died. She told him that she tucks him in bed and that she kisses him each night before he goes to sleep. Can you imagine what that meant to that little boy? Then there was the teenage boy who had died of suicide who told his Mom, “I am so happy that you are wearing my necklace.” She stood up and pulled the chain out from her blouse in amazement. No one could even see that she had a necklace on! He went on to tell her that he was safe and no longer in pain. Imagine how that alone helped her to heal. I vividly remember the spirit of a 24 year old man who had died of a drug overdose. He kept telling his brother that he was worried about him and that he could see he was going down the same road. Two years later, I learned that the brother had also died of an overdose. When I called Denise to tell her she said that she knew because both boys had come to her that day when she was at home!!!

Over the next 2 years, faithfully each month, Denise did group readings for the clients of the crisis center. It was a gift beyond words to those who were in great pain. During the sessions, I would try to write down everything that the spirits were saying to their loved ones and many people carried those notes with them everywhere they went!! I saw what a great comfort it was to them and how it helped tremendously with the healing process. Denise had nothing to gain from these sessions, as she volunteered her time. Words can never express what it meant to those who were hurting. Denise Lescano is one in a million and I am privileged to call her friend.

Jane Heady
Grief Counselor/Victim Advocate-retired

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Jerry Eddleman-
An ancient Roman philosopher, Lucius Annaeus Seneca, once said, “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” With no forethought of my own, my earlier life experiences had prepared me for an opportunity that appeared a few years ago when I met Denise Lescano. Although she says that she never had a penchant for drugs or alcohol in excess, such is not the case with many of us. According to a recent study conducted by the National Institutes of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, 8.5 percent of adults in the United States meet the criteria for alcoholism, and another 2 percent meet the criteria for drug addiction. In other words, at least one in every ten Americans has a serious problem with drugs or alcohol. According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), five million U.S. citizens attended self-help meetings for drug and alcohol related issues and about one-third of those people also attended some form of inpatient or outpatient treatment last year. When considering the impact that alcoholism and drug addiction have on family members, co-workers, neighbors, employers, and health care providers, almost no one escapes completely unscathed. Clearly, these are problems of universal proportions that are affecting the entire human race.
The disease of alcoholism took me on a twenty-two year roller coaster ride from my early teens through my early thirties and left a trail of wreckage that has taken decades to repair. For the past twenty years I have worked diligently, as a layperson, to be of some helpful service to others who are struggling to overcome their addictions. Ever since we began to recognize alcoholism and addictions as treatable illnesses, we’ve made great strides in the areas of medicine, science, and psychology that have contributed significantly to the rehabilitation of millions of people. However, even the most advanced therapies can only go so far, and, in spite of our best efforts, long-term recovery rates are abysmally small.

Successful rehabilitation takes place at physical, mental, and psychological levels. But, we often fail to address another vital aspect of recovery. The critical missing element is “spiritual.” The eminent Swiss psychiatrist, Dr. Carl Jung, wrote:
You see, “alcohol” in Latin is “spiritus” and you use the same word for the highest
Religious experience as well as for the most depraving poison. The helpful formula
therefore is: spiritus contra spiritum.

Experience with the realm of the spirit may be essential to the process of overcoming addictions. Recovery from alcoholism and other addictive disorders is a complex, dynamic process, and in this effort we should not hesitate to use every available tool. Therefore, when I became aware that Denise Lescano was interested in using her psychic gifts to help people to more fully recover from drug addiction and alcoholism, I contacted several friends, and we began to work with her. Our early efforts in recovery were a necessary preparation for what we later learned from Denise. She brought us important messages from “the other side” of life, and we connected to spirit guides who helped us to focus on areas that we needed to work on. For some, it was about healing past trauma or getting honest about current life situations or challenges. She told others about the precise things they needed to do to take better care of their health through dietary and exercise changes. Denise painstakingly addressed each person’s particular recovery needs.

Over the years I have worked with hundreds of people in recovery, and I have learned firsthand what the attrition rates are like. A full fifty percent of those making an initial attempt at sobriety will not still be sober ninety days later, and many more drop by the wayside over the next few months. By the end of the first year, with perhaps a single exception, every graduate of a twenty-eight day treatment program will have relapsed. I know because I was such an exception, and twenty years later the statistics have not improved. Most people simply do not recover, and those of us who do remain abstinent continue to defy the odds on a day-to-day basis.

Initially, I contacted about a dozen men and women that I knew in recovery to see who might be willing to participate in “gallery” type readings with Denise. Interestingly, none of my male friends have thus far been willing (I expect that to change shortly). However, eight women have volunteered to come at various times. Some have visited with Denise on two or more occasions, and some only attended a single session. They represented various lengths of sobriety ranging from six months to over thirty years, with an average of nine to ten years of recovery. Seven of the eight have remained continuously clean and sober during this two year period, and one who relapsed on pain medication is now back in recovery. Do I think that Denise’s talent for bringing information through from the spirit side of life was totally responsible for this statistical miracle? No, not totally, there were many other factors to consider. However, I am entirely satisfied that the information presented to each individual contributed significantly to their self-awareness and gave them additional insights and tools to assist them and enhance the quality of their recoveries. Typically, Denise would offer certain knowledge that “validated” the information being received. For example, she provided C.H. with insights that assured her that she was indeed in contact with her deceased husband. Once that was accomplished, she was given information that was specifically addressed to her, such as the fact that the co-dependency and enabling patterns that she was experiencing with her stepson were mirroring the same issues that she had previously encountered with her late husband, and, if she didn’t get a handle on those issues, they could possibly lead her into relapse. He also assured her that he would be assisting her from spirit and that it would be essential for her to stay closely involved with her recovery groups if she was to remain sober. Finally, he tried to encourage her to not give up “before the miracle happens.” Similarly, Denise gave C.O. validating information from her deceased mother regarding the rabbits her mother had given to her when she was still in the physical body. Once the validation was accepted, her mother went on to discuss a life-threatening illness that C.O. was battling. Her mother told her that the cancer she was currently receiving treatment for was a big part of the cleansing and purging processes that were necessary for her to be able to release her addictions, and other issues, in this lifetime. M.L.’s maternal grandmother discussed with her the details of the recent traumatic break-up of a romantic relationship and then talked specifically about her recovery from alcohol and drug addiction. Her grandmother assured her that she had successfully overcome the larger issues of her addictive behaviors and that all that would be necessary for her to maintain her sobriety would be for her to “stick with the program.”

Denise brought forth specific validating information for each individual in attempts to enhance their recovery efforts. Not once did she offer generic platitudes or repeat information from one person to the next. She provided each person with exactly what they specifically needed to hear that would be of maximum benefit to them as individuals. This was the most therapeutic “counseling” that I have ever witnessed. There was catharsis, healing, and hope for everyone who joined us in these sessions.

Undoubtedly, some will dismiss the possibility of this kind of spiritual assistance; if I hadn’t seen it and benefited from it personally, I might have been one of them. But, to those who may be open to it, I see this as pioneering work with the possibility of greatly enhancing our understanding of the root causes and conditions surrounding the diseases of addiction. It may also increase the probability of many additional recoveries from destructive habits and disorders. No one has ever attempted to use spirit communication to enhance recovery from alcoholism and drug addiction before, and it is exciting to witness these ground-breaking discoveries in rehabilitation. A friend of mine likes to say, “The mind is like a parachute in that it only works when it’s open.” To that I would add Joseph Dunninger’s comment that: “For those who believe, no explanation is necessary; for those who do not, no explanation will suffice.” I consider myself fortunate indeed to be able to share this unique opportunity with someone that, unbeknownst to me, I was previously prepared to work with.

Very truly yours,

Jerry D. Eddleman
Founder and President
The Serenity Club of Naples, Twelve Step Groups

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Bob Riley-
It has been said that all of life is our teacher and we are forever in a classroom. That makes so much sense as we definitely are on a journey in each of our lives. Along the way, my travels crossed paths with a very caring, compassionate and intuitive woman name Denise Lescano. A psychic medium with incredible talents and abilities, she has continuously shown this grief and life coach what a professional medium is about. Over the last 5 years, Denise has demonstrated to me what character, integrity, respect, compassion and sincerity is with a medium who genuinely owns these accolades. I was very honored to have been given this opportunity to describe Denise and her wonderful talents to you.

Being a professional coach who works with people in helping to build their life and assist ones in grief, my focus is on having a no nonsense approach. This is exactly what had impressed me so much about the work Denise does. My observations over the years have been one of absolute pinpoint accuracy she brings to her clients. I have sat with many, many clients through these past 5 years and the work Denise has done with our survivors group is that of “par excel lance”. I have been involved with co-facilitating a survivors group for individuals who have lost someone to suicide. We have been meeting weekly for close to 23 years presently and Denise’s contribution to our members grief walk is beyond compare and unparalleled.

Denise has been tested professionally for being legitimate, which has been very important to her work and reputation. The effects and results generated from her work, that I have observed, are indeed quite phenomenal. I know too well the stories and heartaches our members live with. Denise is never made aware of any knowledge about who she reads for. When she confronts them with factual truth, they know in that moment she has delivered very succinct, personalized information which comes from spirit. Denise has what she refers to as “spiritual integrity” which is giving the clients exactly what spirit is sending without being filtered. I have myself experienced a personal reading with Denise and she was right on the mark. To the skeptics, I say you have the absolute right to your opinion. It is unfortunate with that outlook you will never experience the quality of a connection with a loved one’s spirit that Denise provides.

The lives of our members have been so enriched and nurtured as a result of Denise’s readings. They have discovered very essential information that was lacking since the death of their loved one. So much peace, closure and resolve have been given to so many of our clients. Some messages deal with future events for people to grow into and yet a number of times spirit will bring through situations and information which has taken place, well after the time of their death.

One isolated reading we had was with a son, on the other side, doing his best to persuade his mom that this is real and true by describing his grandmother’s suicide attempt. He described her lying on a bathroom floor, in a pool of blood, due to cutting her wrists. He was working real hard, as was Denise, to convince his mother, in the moment, he and grandma were there wanting to connect with her.   It took her some time to remember the incident, but when she finally did it provided the proof that she needed that the experience was real and was the catalyst which caused a sudden breakthrough in her healing process.

So many lives have been given the glow of satisfaction, validation, love, kinship, awareness and overall spiritual guidance through the genuineness of Denise’s psychic expertise. She is superb, the real deal and believe when I tell you, I willingly place my lifelong reputation on the line in validating her true psychic abilities, since ever first experiencing her reading of spirits.
I would like to present to you her story about the trials and tribulations of a psychic’s life journey. I am both humbled and proud to call this fine, talented, gifted and genuine person, psychic medium Denise Lescano, my dear friend.

Bob Riley
Professional Grief and Life Coach
Facilitator of the Group “SAS” -Surviving After Suicide
http://www.BobRileyCoaching.com

Excerpt from the New Book by Denise Lescano, Copyright Denise Lescano 2009 – All Rights Reserved
Soon to be published and released

Chapter 13: Ghost of Boyfriend Past

I think most of us have that one person, that one heartbreak that we think we will never get over. The one we never forget and always wonder what if? What if we met at another time, or another place or in another situation? We all have that person that we wonder about over the years, if they ever married, where they are and how their life has turned out? At first, after the break up, we try dating other people hoping that they will distract us long enough that we will finally forget about the one that we really love. We hope that if we fall in love with another we will stop loving the one we lost. We convince ourselves that we are better off with out them and remind ourselves of all the things about them that were wrong for us. We try over and over to deny the truth that lies in our heart that we are still deeply in love with that person and we try our hardest to put our best foot forward anyway and keep just moving forward one day at a time. Time goes by, years go by, and eventually we do begin to forget about them and for the most part we pick ourselves up, brush ourselves off and move on with our lives. Until one day, we bump in to them, or an old friend and we are reminded once again of the mark they left on our heart and the impression they left on our soul. We forget the horrible break up, the nasty things that were said that we couldn’t take back, all the mistakes we made when we were younger and inexperienced and we reminisce about the good times and the happy moments when we were in love. We begin to realize that tied in with these old memories are old feelings that are reignited through the emotional resonance of memory. Like taking a roller coaster ride through the past, our emotions are eclipsed by our memories reminding us of those ancient scars, badly healed wounds and secret list of grudges we keep. They are often the moment and emotions still in need of letting go and of forgiveness. Some times the forgiveness is for the other and other times it is for our selves for the mistakes that we or they made on our journey together. As it seems, I had just “bumped in to an old friend” Nick, and the rollercoaster ride had begun. The person that I had spent a lifetime trying to forget and leave behind was suddenly as intimately connected to my life now as he once was 20 years ago.

Spirits have taught me through readings that there is no such thing as failure in a relationship. We learn some of our most valuable lessons through our relationships. We are each others teachers. They remind me as they come through in readings, that we are not victims here we are volunteers and we all choose to participate in our relationship experiences regardless of their outcome. We choose our most significant partners before we are ever born in to this life and we choose each other full well knowing the issues we are both coming together to work on. “Fate” and “Synchronicity” coordinate the timing of our meeting in this lifetime, but believe me there is no chance in who and how we meet one another. We set it all up in advance as part of our plan. Although we arrange our meetings and coming together, we do not necessarily write our outcomes in advance. Much of our outcomes depend on how well we learn our lessons together, if we learn them at the same pace and if we both continue to participate in the class we are taking with one another. Sometimes one of us gets lost, sometimes both of us do. We stumble or we get off track and maybe we even decide to quit the class all together or just graduate to the next level and so we split up. Some times we are not meant to be each others one and only and we were only supposed to meet for a period of time and move on. So, whether we come together for a lifetime, a few months or a few years, all of our relationships are equally important as they are all part of our lesson plan. I also know that we all reincarnate over and over and that we have most likely been through many lifetimes together with our most significant partners working on these issues. In most cases this isn’t our first lifetime together and not likely to be our last either.

The real problems come in for us when we don’t learn or grow from our relationship experiences and we stubbornly stumble along in our unconscious oblivion repeating the same destructive relationship patterns over and over. We keep changing all the players, but are stuck playing the same old game over and over. This is when we begin to feel like the victim, and while stuck in the role of the victim, we don’t realize that all along it has been us who needs to change and grow. So, we keep looking for Mr or Mrs Right thinking that when we find the right one, that special one we will finally be happy in love and in life. Wrong! We have many possible Mr and Mrs Rights and when they don’t work out it is because we are either finished learning from each other what we came together to learn, or that one is growing faster than the other or perhaps we are stuck in some old or dysfunctional pattern. We need to either examine the types of people we are attracted to and why, how we are behaving or what our expectations are in a partner. It is most often us who is looking for all the wrong things in our partner, full of unrealistic or misguided expectations we are quick to point out what is wrong with the other instead of realizing that they are our mirrors, shining back to us what we need to work on about our self.

Well, even with all that being said, it certainly does not lessen the pain of heartbreak and a love that is lost. There is no greater pain than the love that is lost whether it is through a break up or by death. The thing is though, Love is never really lost. Once we are connected by love, no matter what happens in life or after death we will always be connected by that love. It is literally like a cord of light that connects our heart to another’s in eternity and from this side to the other. I have done readings for people that have been married three or four times and will invariable have a first husband come in to a reading from a brief and young marriage. A 65 year old woman who has been married several times will be surprised that this first husband now passed will come in to her reading to say hello. I will explain to her that once we are linked by love we are always linked, love is the karmic tie that keeps us together working things out, from this lifetime to the next. There is nothing stronger than the bond of love, not even hate can break the bonds of love, not really. Because even relationships that became estranged in life, where people have disconnected completely and are no longer speaking, will reconnect again after death to sort things out and get closure and finish what they came to do together. Have you noticed that some of our most difficult relationships exist within our family of origin, with our parents and our siblings? That is because those family ties of Love are the hardest to sever. They keep us together in the most difficult of circumstances trying to work through our issues. We choose to be in relationships with difficult people in our families because we know that we would never work that hard for anyone else in our lives and we also know that they have something very important to teach us. Sometimes they teach us by showing us what to do and sometimes they teach us by showing what not to do first. If it were not for the fact that they are our parent or a child for example, we would be much more likely to throw in the towel and walk away.

-by Denise Lescano
-Copyright Denise Lescano 2009

“In the midst of the greatest adversity is tremendous opportunity for those creative enough & with the vision to see it- Adversity inspire innovation and new directions”-DLescano

“Depression is often a symptom of not living your life in alignment with who you really are and instead living a life in fear or for others-DLescano. Pills don’t cure depression; they just make your misery more manageable. If you want to cure depression, than have the courage and commitment to change your life.
This is your life and you are the only one who has to live it, so make sure you are living the life of your choice. We are not victims here, we are volunteers. We will always have adversity, but that is quite a different thing than living a life you hate. Don’t waste time, tomorrow is promised to know one. You came here for a reason…what is it?” -DLescano

“Don’t live a life in Fear; it is a total waste of perfectly good energy. Let adversity inspire innovation and create the life you imagine.” -DLescano

“The problem with material wealth is that at some point the things you own may begin to own you.-Do you live for “what you have or who you are?” -DLescano

“What other people think about you and how you live your life is not nearly as important as what you think about you and how you live your life.”You” are the ONLY one who has to “live your life” so live it the way you see fit, regardless of what anyone else thinks about it. Living in accordance with who you really are will set you free.” -DLescano

“No matter what happens today, whether you are happy or miserable about it is “your choice”. Your life experience is your choice, the result and culmination of all your choices, so choose wisely …life is short -chose to be happy and live the life that will fulfill you!”-DLescano

“My Dog is just so awesome. I just love him so much! He is just such a good dog, in some ways better than my hubby and son. LOL He never rolls his eyes, ALWAYS listens attentively when I talk to him, is always just so darn happy to see me, waits patiently for me to get ready, never argues and as my son says “he just fills the house with love” I have to agree!”
-DLescano

“Forgiveness does not absolve another from responsibility and accountability”-DLescano

“Forgiveness is a Gift you give ‘yourself’ that releases ‘You’ from the toxic ties that bind you to another in unhealthy and toxic ways. If you choose to share the gift with the other, then that is your choice, but first and foremost Forgiveness is for your benefit not the other.” -DLescano

“Sometimes we are here to learn, other times we are here to teach, but we are all here in school to help one another.” -DLescano

“All of Life conspires to teach us something. When things are not going the way you want, ask yourself…are you getting the lesson?” -DLescano

“Successful people do not get down when faced with difficulty, they seize the opportunity to step back, regroup, rethink and innovate! Adversity is nature’s way of stimulating new growth by causing us to prune all that has become obsolete in our lives therefore stimulating new growth and new directions.” – DLescano

“Within every obstacle/setback is great opportunity for those creative enough to see it. Adversity inspires innovation!” -DLescano

“Your reality is not a circumstance of fate; it is your creation by choice. We are not victims here in life -we are volunteers” DLescano

“Happiness is a subjective state of mind based on perspective”-DLescano

“Outer abundance is a reflection of inner abundance. Abundance is not wealth and wealth is not necessarily abundance. Wealth is only one facet of abundance. To find true happiness and peace it is important to know the difference. True abundance that leads to happiness is an abundance of love, both giving and receiving. Some of the wealthiest people I know live in a constant state of lack or fear of lack. To focus only on the abundance of wealth leaves the soul in a state of lack and starving for love, life and real fulfillment. To feed the soul we need a balanced diet of life, to only feed our souls with money is like eating a junk food diet. It leaves you feeling empty, unfulfilled and creates an insatiable appetite for more. If we all cultivated the abundance of life, love and family how much richer our worlds would really be. Think about it.” -DLescano

“I still remember “my” first reading with a Medium. She told me about a special very sentimental hat that I wore to my grandfather’s funeral and how my grandfather had liked that I wore that hat. He used to call it a “go to hell hat” which the flappers wore back in the roaring twenties during prohibition. He had always loved when I wore the hat which is why I wore it to his funeral. No one knew that but he and I, so when she told me that I “knew” it was him. it was proof. That moment changed my life forever and it was the turning point of my life. It was the first time I had met someone who could see spirits like I did. It was the first time I realized I was not crazy and from that moment I wanted to do what she did for other people. I began taking classes to learn all I could with her and I eventually fine tuned my abilities to the point where I now do what I do. I remember she told me many years ago one day I would do what she does. At the time, I was like NO WAY…but here I am.”-DLescano

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Outer abundance is a reflection of inner abundance. Abundance is not wealth and wealth is not necessarily abundance. Wealth is only one facet of abundance. To find true happiness and peace it is important to know the difference. True abundance that leads to happiness is an abundance of love, both giving and receiving. Some of the wealthiest people I know live in a constant state of lack or fear of lack. To focus only on the abundance of wealth leaves the soul in a state of lack and starving for love, life and real fullfillment. To feed the soul we need a balanced diet of life, to only feed our souls with money is like eating a junk food diet. It leaves you feeling empty, unfullfilled and creates an insatiable appetite for more. If we all cultivated the abundance of life, love and family how much richer our worlds would really be. Think about it.

By Psychic Medium Denise Lescano
Copyright Denise Lescano 2009
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This is the second part to last week’s blog on how to Develop your own Intuitive Abilities.  Every time I teach a class on Psychic Development I go around the room and ask everyone why they are taking the class?  I get quite a variety of responses and reasons why people are interested in exploring their psychic abilities further.  You might be very surprised to know that all of my classes include very diverse groups of people.  I have men and women of all ages from teens to retirees.   They range from home makers and mothers, to nurses, doctors, attorneys, entrepreneurs, massage therapists and every other profession that you can imagine.  Many people have never taken anything like it before.  Some believe they have some psychic talents and want to develop them further while others are quite certain they don’t have any at all but have been encouraged to come to the class by a friend.  My classes are typically 8 weeks, once a week for about two hours and all classes begin with a brief talk about the subject of the evening, followed by a 20-30 minute guided mediation and end with about an hour of actually working with partners practicing intuitive development exercises.  Every one will be fairly astounded by the abilities that they discover within themselves throughout the course.  Many by the end of the class will discover they have tremendous intuitive capacity and often will begin connecting with their class partner’s loved ones on the spirit side.  I get great satisfaction from witnessing the self discovery process that people go through as they open up and begin to connect to a whole new world that they never even knew existed.  Nothing can replace actually experiencing the spirit world for your self.  It is an absolutely life altering experience.  For me it is much like taking a 5 year old to Disney World and for the student I imagine they must feel like the 5 year old being transported back to a place of mystery and wonder, only this time it is not imaginary at all.  The proof is in the pudding as they say.  As the students work with partners who are complete strangers, receiving and delivering information to their partner which their partner then validates for them, it becomes unavoidably apparent that this other reality is definitely not a product of their imagination.  The process of receiving random impressions and details about another’s life and then having that person confirm for you that what you are receiving is actually valid and accurate is a very powerful experience.

Why should you be interested in developing your own intuitive abilities?  I will tell you why.  Whether you are a professional in the business world, working in the healing and metaphysical arts, or just curious, you will see as our culture moves in to the future these abilities will be more and more necessary for success and survival in a fast past rapidly changing world.   As technology has advanced in the past ten years, computers and the internet are rapidly replacing many professional skills.  Initially automation replaced the labor worker in factories as robotics advanced and moved in to the manufacturing industries.  Now, with the introduction of the internet and the fact that practically every household now has access to a computer, software has begun to replace many professional skills.  For example, consider how the introduction of TurboTax and QuickBooks has affected the accountant, or Legalzoom.com has affected the attorney.  For a small fee, many legal documents and filings can be done on line and many individuals and small business owners now do their own bookkeeping and tax preparation with no prior education on the subjects.  Even some computer technology positions are becoming obsolete.  You no longer need to hire a website designer as there are now many easy to use programs that provide the templates and instructions for even the layman to create their own web site.  I could go on and on.  I was an art major in college and I specialized in Visual Design, Marketing and Illustration.  None of these skills at this time can be automated.  At least at this point and time, computers cannot yet really create and design new concepts.  Computer Automation cannot create innovation, creative problem solving and art for example.  It can not create musical expression.  The computer may be the tool used by the artist to render a visual image, or piece of music or even a book for example, however, it is the human behind the tool that truly creates a unique vision of something new and innovative.  Humans are still the inventors, engineers and creators of industry, opportunity and society.  Remember what I said in my last Blog, the computer can only process and understand information based on what has been programmed in to it.  Computers at this point, are still very much logical, rational linear processors.  Creative/Intuitive expression is quite the opposite of that and is also very much a characteristic of the human condition.

So, what does this have to do with developing your intuitive senses?  Simply put …everything.   Remember I told you that your intuitive energies run through the same channels as your creative energies.  In class I tell my students if you want to develop your intuitive side then do anything creative as often as possible.  Most of us work in jobs where we have little room from creativity.  Much of our work is repetitious and consists of following the rules, protocol and production.  So, it is very important to find our creative expression through creative outlets and keep that alive in our lives.  Our creative expression is where we find the energy of passion which provides meaning, purpose and joy in our lives.  Without these energies, life becomes monotonous, meaningless and unfulfilling.  As we accept our lives without these energies our souls begin to lose life force, bit by bit, day by day.  Once that happens, we often resort to trying to fill that empty space with addiction, denial and overindulgence which does not feed our soul.  This leads to an insatiable appetite from external stimuli while leaving our souls empty and unfulfilled.  So to do anything creative is to feed your soul, express your authentic self and naturally connects you to your intuitive, spiritual and immortal self.  To develop your intuition consciously also results in connecting you with your own personal creative expression.  They go hand in hand.  Many students have reported to me that after taking my class, they began writing, gardening or redecorating their home for example.  They felt alive and inspired again.

So next you might say, “Well, I’m not artistic at all.”  And I will say, wrong -yes you are!  We all are.  Unfortunately, again our culture places a very strong emphasis on linear and rational learning and working.  Many of us were brought up to follow the rules, stay in the lines and get good grades.  We were rewarded for excelling in linear subjects while things like art, music and writing perhaps were considered nice but secondary and not very important.  Well I truly believe you will see that changing as we move in to the future.  I have been a successful entrepreneur for 15 years and nearly every project I commit to is always successful.  That is not to say I don’t have plenty of failures, however every time an idea or project failed to perform, it was a challenge for me to think outside the box, create new solutions and come up with new strategies for success.  Every successful entrepreneur knows this.  The ones that succeed are able to do this.  It is easy to succeed when things are going well and the economy is good, it takes a genius to succeed when everything is going wrong.  And from the mouth of one of the great geniuses;   Albert Einstein – “None of my discoveries came from the rational mind.”  I couldn’t have said it better myself. 

Here is an example of three basic types of people that I see in my work. 
1. You have the scientific “thinkers” who are obviously the scientists, mathematicians, accountants and attorneys of the world.  They operate primarily in a linear, logical, rational fashion and love to follow a formula or a plan.  Creativity and abstract concepts typically are difficult for these types to grasp.  These are usually my skeptics . 
2.  Then you have the “feelers” who are the artists, healers, nurturers and empaths.  They are the creative people who prefer to “feel” their way through life.  They may work with people as social workers, counselors, teachers, nurses or create music, books and art.  They generally are more spontaneous open and curious about abstract concepts.   These people may have a difficult time with routine, rules and seldom have a plan or if they do, may not stick with it.
 Obviously, to be one or the other to the extreme is not necessarily a very balanced way to be and live.  Each personality, the thinker or the feeler will have its limitations.  We all tend to naturally be more one or the other.  Each personality will have a difficult time working with and understanding the others perspective as they approach, problems and life totally different.  Neither is better than the other, right or wrong, they just operate differently. 
3.  Then you have the people that have a well developed balance of the two.  These will many times be the most successful, happy and fulfilled people.  They are “the engineers” as I call them.  A good engineer has the perfect balance of the two.  Let’s take for example, the architect.  An architect has to have a strong level of creativity to visualize and conceptualize a building that he wants to create and manifest in the physical word.  So, he will typically start with a sketch for the design which will show the esthetics of how it will look.  This is the creative artistic side of his work.  However, to bring the building in to physical manifestation, he must also have a strong capacity for linear thinking.  He must then create a blueprint, a plan and it must be very precise and technical so that the structure will actually stand. This example of “the engineer” type has a perfect balance of the creative and the linear.  Another example might be a movie producer, video game programmer or even music video producer and marketing execs.  I guarantee you that the most successful people in the next century will need both of these capacities equally developed.  So the development of one side should never negate the other side, they are both equally important.  It is precisely in these challenging times we are living in, that we need more people who are creative and intuitive thinkers and expressionists.  No longer, can we follow the same protocol based on the rules and experiences of the past.  They are now completely obsolete as we move in to a vastly different and rapidly changing future of technology.  The problems the world faces will require immense capacity to visualize and conceptualize what has never been done before.

So how do you develop these qualities within yourself?  Well first, begin by developing your creative and artistic side.   You do not have to be a painter or piano player, many people find their creative expression in gardening, cooking, quilting, writing in a journal, scrap booking, decorating, carpentry or restoring old homes and automobiles for example.  If you are not sure what you might enjoy or feel you need a little help try taking an art class or some music lessons. 

To develop your intuitive senses, which we all possess, it is also very important to learn to quiet the mind and relax the body.  This is much easier said than done for most people.  The obvious way is through mediation and exercise.  If you do not know how to meditate you will find many guided mediation CD’s out there.  Yoga is a popular way to relax the body and bring the mind and body in to balance.  One thing is for certain, you will not be able to make contact with your intuitive abilities if you are all wound up, worried and stressed with your mind in constant overdrive.  I always meditate before doing readings.  For me, it is like turning off the switch to my mind and life in the physical world and turning on the switch to my intuition and the spiritual world.  If I am having a particularly stressful day I may mediate for 30 minutes or more and on a more peaceful day maybe 10 minutes will do the trick.  Just like anything the more you practice and make meditation a part of your daily routine the better you will become at it, the quicker you will go in to a relaxed state, and the more deeply relaxed you will become.  The medical community has plenty of research supporting the health benefits for the mind and body of mediation.  Remember, the physical world is loud and busy and screaming at us all day long, while our inner voices and the spirit world speak to us in whispers.  You have to quite your inner and outside world in order to hear the intuitive world.

PREPARATION FOR INTUITIVE WORK

Preparing Your Self:
It is important to prepare yourself properly before doing Intuitive and Healing work. 
In order to become more “receptive” and open to receive information intuitively, it is important to quiet and calm our mental and emotional states, as well as, prepare the physical body.  The best way to do this is thru Meditation.  The Meditation should include Clearing, Grounding and Protecting your energy field (aura).  We must quiet our thoughts and balance our emotions, before we are able to perceive the more subtle spiritual dimensions.  Take some time to clear your head and calm your self before working.  You should always be in a relaxed and balanced state before working.  I do not recommend doing Intuitive work if you are in an unbalanced emotional state. (feeling fearful, anxious, depressed etc)  It will be much more difficult for you to receive and perceive clear guidance and you will be very likely to misinterpret what you might receive.  I also, strongly, discourage the use of alcohol or drugs of any kind, in any amount, while doing this work.  I also recommend keeping your physical body in a balanced and healthy state.  Regular exercise and a healthy diet of natural, whole foods will help to keep the body’s energy vibration higher and will aid the Intuitive Process.  Avoid unhealthy, toxic behaviors, as well as, processed foods as much as possible.  The Mental, Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Energy bodies all work together while doing Intuitive work.  The more in balance and harmonious the energy bodies are, the stronger and more clear your Intuitive Connection to the Spiritual Realm will be. 

Preparing your Space, and other tools:
It is also important to take a few minutes to clear and protect the space that you are working in.  The energy of people can be left behind and remain in a space indefinitely.  The quickest and easiest was to clear a space is to light a candle in the center of the room or several candles placed in a circle around the room.  Sage is a plant, that when dried and burned, is very effective in neutralizing and clearing out the residual energy left behind in a space (*especially negative energy).  You can  usually find dried Sage in Metaphysical and Health Food stores in the area.  You may burn it in a bowl in the center of the room or walk with it around the room in a circle.  You may also clear your intuitive tools (tarot cards, pendulums, crystals), by passing them through the smoke of the sage. Burning Incense and essential oils are also very effective.  A bowl of water may also be placed by the candle in the center of the room to help absorb unwanted energy.  If it is possible, surround the space with crystals, natural stones and plants, to help keep the energy clear.  A basic knowledge of Feng Shui principles is also helpful.  Relaxing, non vocal-instrumental, soft music in the background is also helpful in creating a soothing mood and energy.  I prefer to work in natural light as much as possible or soft lighting, avoid fluorescent lighting as it skews and distorts energy.

Set your Intention:
By setting your intention, you are asking your spiritual guides to come in and work with you, protect you and your space from unwanted spiritual energies. I always ask that the only spiritual energies that are allowed in to work with me, come only from a place of love for me or the person that I am reading for.  I also ask that the spiritual energies that come in to work with me are here for the purpose of directing us to our highest good and further our personal growth. Here is a quick intention (prayer) that I use before I do any Intuitive work.  You may ask this of your personal spiritual guides, loved ones on the other side or God as you perceive the source.

          “Let nothing but love enter this place,
 Let nothing but love emerge in this space,
 Let nothing but love enter in,
 Let nothing but love emerge from with in.”

If spiritual energies are coming only from a place of love, with the intention of love, then they are always for the greatest good of everyone involved. 
Why is it important to set your intention before working?  Would you open the door to your home and invite just anyone in, I think not.  There are many levels of spirit and spiritual energies and we do not want to attract lower levels of spirit. Energy naturally attracts like energy, which is also why I speak of not working while under the influence of drugs or alcohol or doing this work in a depressed or negative emotional/mental state.  Keep your energy up, and in a high vibration so that you will also attract the most evolved and well intentioned spiritual energies. 

Tips for Intuitive Reading and Inquiry:
1.  When reading for your self It is essential to have “No attachment to the Outcome” for your question or concern.  Detachment and Objectivity is crucial to receiving accurate intuitive guidance. This can sometimes be very difficult when we are reading about our own lives.  Instead of trying to illicit or hope for a particular outcome or result, it is better to say to yourself  “I am ready to find out what is best for me at this time in my life”.  Be “open to receive” whatever spirit is trying to tell you, especially if it is not what you wanted to hear.  Your spirit guides will guide you in the direction of your personal life’s path and to the situations and people that will help you learn the lessons that you came here to learn.  Many times they do not deliver what you necessarily want but what you need for growth, it is very important to understand this.  I have often been led in to very difficult relationships for example in my own life, however I understand now that these partners provided something in our relations that was vital to a lesson my soul needed to learn.  Your guides are not going to make you rich, your life easy and solve all your problems, we are here to solve our own problems.  They will however give you guidance and help you to make the best choices if you will listen.

2.  You will find that It is always easiest to read for people that you do not know very well.  You are more likely to receive information intuitively without having your own thoughts, experiences and perceptions of the person you are reading for get in the way. 

4. Practice, Practice, Practice!
Just like anything, the more you do intuitive work and practice regular meditation the better you will become. 

5.  Try some of the exercises suggested in the books that I recommended in last weeks Blog.  Try using different tools like a pendulum, tarot or angel cards for example.  Go with what you are attracted to.  It does not matter tool you use, it is only a tool, much like one artist prefers to sculpt with clay while another may prefer to paint.  There are lots of books on using pendulums and cards for example. 

Next week:  I will talk about Prophecy and “looking in to the future”  and how that works.  There is much misunderstanding on this subject.

May 30, 2009 -Copyright  Denise Lescano 2009

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In my work, people are constantly telling me about paranormal and psychic experiences they have had.  It is very common that most people at one point or another in their lives have experienced some sort of a “psychic” experience.  It is also common that most people keep these experiences to themselves for fear that no one will believe them or worse, think they are “crazy”.  Many people even have some fear themselves about their own unexplained experiences.  More and more however, people are overcoming their fears and misunderstanding and beginning to embrace and explore these natural innate qualities.  A very common question that I get from clients is – “how can they develop their own abilities?”

First of all, we ALL have these abilities and the potential to develop them further.  Your intuitive senses run through the same channels as your creative energies.  In other words, they are similar to a musical or artistic ability.  For some, they came to us very naturally and for others we have to really work at recognizing and developing them. 

For example, I pretty much have no musical talent what so ever.  I cannot really recognize and identify different notes in a song and I do not really understand the principles of music.  Music is a “language” that I do not really know or understand although I certainly enjoy listening to it.  However, if  I were really interested in learning about music, I could take some piano classes and I could learn “to hear” and differentiate different notes and learn to understand the principles behind a piece of music.  If I were to commit to practicing regularly, I could learn to play music and perhaps even learn how to write and create music.  Now, I may not have the natural talents that would lead me to be a professional musician, but that is not the point really.  Growing up, I was very naturally talented in art and drawing.  It came easy to me and I was pretty good at drawing what ever I saw.  So, when I went on to college, I majored in art where I fine tuned my abilities and “my eye” and did go on to work as a professional illustrator for a time.  My teachers not only taught me the “techniques” to “express” what I saw with a pencil on a paper, but they also taught me “how to really see” what I was looking at so that I could accurately transmit that to the page.  Even though I had a lot of natural ability, through further learning and training and lots of practice, I went on to really fine tune my eye and artistic technique and take my talent to the professional level.  So, your intuitive senses are the same in this way. 

Unfortunately for the most part, our western culture offers very little in the way of validation, affirmation and encouragement of this aspect of our human condition.  All emphasis in our modern day society is placed on the rational intellect. So we have become very intellectually adept and developed but intuitively we are quite underdeveloped.  Earlier cultures, before the development of technology, did value intuitive people and abilities.  When learned properly, validated and encouraged our intuitive abilities can be a reliable compliment to our rational intellect.  The development of one should not negate the other; rather we should learn to balance our intuitive and rational sides to work together.  I have found in my own life and work, that our intuitive intelligence can be much more reliable and insightful than our rational intellect if we can learn to interpret what we perceive correctly and trust it.

I want you to consider for a moment that your brain is much like your computer.  It is the “computer” that runs our physical bodies.  It is however, very limited in its knowledge and understanding.  It is also not “who we really are.”  We are not our bodies, we are temporarily living in them.  For those of you who have a reading with me (or another medium) and I am speaking with your loved one who has passed on the spirit side of life, and they are providing me with memories, details and visions from their life…have you stopped to consider where that knowledge is coming from?  Your loved one, no longer in a physical body also no longer has a brain.  So, obviously we have a consciousness and memory that exists outside of our brain.  Those specific details that they give to me to deliver to you are proof of that.  You also know that many times, they are details about your family that you did not even know at the time of our reading and that you have had to validate with a family member.  So obviously I am not reading your mind either, as many times it is information you had no knowledge of when we spoke. 

Our brain is merely a link, the go between that transmits information between the soul and the physical body.  In the same way, your computer links you to others through the internet for example.  The brain just like your computer, can only process information that it receives based on what has been programmed in to it, which is based on the knowledge and awareness and past experience of the times and its programmer.   The problem becomes when we learn to depend on and trust solely the knowledge of the brain and rational thought, we can eventually completely block out, tune out and begin to ignore the knowledge of our soul.  We inadvertently block out the immortal knowledge our soul has accumulated through lifetimes of learning. 

Throughout this lifetime, our brains are creating a perspective based on what we have been taught is real and the “truth” and on our own life experience.  Many times what we were taught thru our families of origin, society and even religion we later find out to be false or obsolete as we advance in understanding and awareness.  So, all of our brains understanding and vision of the future is based on our knowledge and experience from the past and many times what we have been programmed with is false information.   Our intuition transcends our brains limitations.  It connects us to our soul that is immortal and has the true knowledge of the universe, our spiritual origins and the cumulative knowledge of all of our past lives and experiences.  When we tap in to that, we can “see through” the surface of things in our surroundings to the real essence.  I will tell you as a professional psychic, that most people and situations are not usually as “they appear” to be to our physical senses.  How many times have we put our faith in a friend, politician or religious leader who appeared to be authentic only to find later they were anything but?  A great example of this would be the BTK Killer.  Remember him?  As all serial killers, he appeared to be the epitome of the good family man, father, and citizen and was even a deacon in his church and Boy Scout leader.  He brutally tortured and killed many people over many years.  I make a living out of seeing people and situations as they “really are”…and I see them many times with out ever seeing them with my physical eyes.  You could say that “I see much better with my eyes closed.”  I tune in to the “energy of the person” and have trained myself well to ignore what my physical senses tell me about a person or situation.  Many times what “I see” intuitively is in direct conflict to what the physical world and my physical senses are telling is going on.  In the beginning of my development I would often get confused by this, especially as a child.  My intuitive sense would be giving me a strong negative feeling about a person, while at the same time my family and society were telling me that they were a great trustworthy person.  I would second guess my self and think I must be wrong, only to find out later I was right!  I never second guess that anymore.  If I don’t have a good feeling about someone, I do not need a reason in the physical world to justify that and I don’t need to explain it. I just know they are not a nice person or someone I want to be around, I trust my feeling and pay attention to it.  How many times has this happened to you? 

There are a few books that I recommend for anyone wanting to develop further their intuitive abilities and understand them.  Start by reading these and my next blog will offer some steps and guidelines to further developing and understanding your own innate psychic abilities.

**The Psychic Workshop, by Kim Chesney    **This is one of my favorite’s and explains well the principles and natural laws behind our psychic abilities

The Psychic Handbook, by Betty F. Balcombe

Develop Your Psychic Skills, by Enid Hoffman

**Earth School 101, by Alan Arcieri    **This is one of my favorite books which explains simply and clearly our connection to the spiritual world and how it intersects and works with the physical world.  This is a must read and was written by my dear friend, mentor and colleague Psychic Medium Alan Arcieri before he passed in December of 2008.

Copyright Denise Lescano, 2009

The intuitve abilities that I have access to, are abilites that we all posses to some degree, or atleast have a potential to access.   As with any other natural talent or ability acsessing these senses are very natural for some and more difficult for others.  However, with a little training, discipline and an open mind I can teach any one how to tap in to their own intuitve sensibilites if they are willing. 

 **I will be offering an interactive-internet webinar Intuitive Development class in February, which will teach the techniques I am about to discuss in this blog, and also offer the opportunity to develop your own abilities by practicing exercise with others in the class.  Please sign up for my Email Newsletter on the right side column of this web site, for more information tba soon.

 The first thing to keep in mind when trying to connect with “The Spirit Side of Life”, is to remember that the spirit world is a very soft and subtle energy which speaks to us in “whispers” compared to the physical world.   Imagine standing in the middle of a crowded stadium, with lots of noise, activity and other people around you, and then imagine your loved one on the sprit side sitting next to you whispering in to your ear.  That is exactly what trying to hear spirits is like while living in the physical world.

 So in order to hear them, we must first quiet the noise around us and within us.  We must become quiet, calm and centered from the inside out to be able to “tune in” to that very subtle frequency of energy where the spirit world exisits.

So how do we do that?  Let’s begin by first preparing the space around you.  First “Turn off the noise!”.  Do you ever take a moment to just stop and be quiet and be still.  Are you able to sit and be still in silence?  Do you know how many people are not able to do that?  Do you always have the TV or the radio on in the back ground…do you find your self uncomfortable in the quiet?  I find that many people do.   Turn off the TV and the radio.   Find a quiet comfortable place in your home or out side if you prefer, that you will not be disturbed.  Dim soft lighting or candle light is condusive to a relaxing attmosphere.  I prefer to have some very soft dreamy music playing in the background, something without vocals.  Something non-intrusive and relaxing is best.  You may also want to consider burning some insense or Sage to raise the vibration of the space, clear out left over energies and also promote a sense of relaxation.   Religious traditons of all faiths have used the burning of incense, plants and resins in their places of prayer and meditation since the beginning of time.

Once you have created a soothing and peaceful space around you, we need to create a soothing and peaceful space within you.  This is usually much more difficult…as life is generally not soothing and peaceful most of the time LOL.    All the more reason why it is so important to intentionally set out to create peace and serenity in your life.  If you wait for it, you will be waiting forever…you must choose to create it.  This is also were “discipline” comes in to play.  In my mind “religion” is very much about disicpline, the discipline of tuning in to the spiritual aspects of life on a regular basis or in a routine, usually for many on Sundays. 

 Now a days, many people are seeking a spiritual connection in their lives, but are looking outside of the traditional structures and disciplines of religion and dogma.   For those of us who are courageous enough to step outside those traditional boundaries and limitations, the spirit world has always told me that it is important for those of us seeking a spiritual connection in our lives, “to find a spiritual practice that suits your temperment and practice it every day.”  In other words, simple as that, you need to make a little time every day, to check in with your self and the spirit world.  If you have the discipline to do this, you will advance in your intuitive and spiritual development.  Like any talent or ability, the more you practice the better you will become at what ever you are trying to accomplish.

So what then is a spirtual practice?  For some of you ,that may mean participating in a more structured belief system or ritual which is rooted in religious doctrine.  For others, it may be as simple as spending a few minutes a day in meditation or prayer.  

It is first, important to clarify the difference between meditation and prayer, which is subtle, but in my mind distinct.  In Prayer – “we speak, we ask, we proclaim, we repeat verses, we express our thanks, our sorrow, our wants and our needs.” to god or the universe,  however, we percieve that higher source…but basically we “Project thought and intention.”  In meditation we do the opposite, “we become quiet, we empty the mind of thoughts, and the body of feelings, we release all expectations and intentions, we release the past and let go of the future, we become still, and in the moment,  and we become receptive and open to receive.  This is very important to understand.  It is the difference between to project and receive, we cannot do both at once.  We must be receptive and open to receive, to percieve any information or contact from the spirit world whether it is a loved one or a guide.

 To be open to receive means you must let go of preconceived ideas, expectations and most importantly judgements.  If you are in a conversations with a friend, and if you are both talking at the same time, you will not hear the other.  You cannot talk or project, and listen or receive, at the same time. 

 So, that brings us to the next step which is to spend time in meditation.    I always meditate before working.  There are days when I can do a quick 10 minute meditation and be ready to go to work, there are other more stressful days, where I may need 30 minutes to be ready to go.    When I first started reading for clients, I would often spend up to an hour to get in to the quiet space I needed to be to hear the whispers of spirit.   But,  as with anything, the more you practice the easier it gets. 

I will be teaching a very good 20 minute guided mediation in the upcoming class.  I will also be offering the meditation very soon on CD.  There are many ways to do meditation which I do not have space to go in to here, but if you look around you will find many recorded guided mediations to follow while you are learning.  I find it is best to follow the same meditation over and over for awhile until you really get the hang of it. 

 Once you have prepared your space and yourself you are ready to begin.  We all receive intuitive information differently.  Some of us will “hear” spirit (our guides or loved ones in spirit) speaking to us in our thoughts, telepathically;  While some of us will “see” them in our mind with our eyes closed, and others will just have a sense of them around or a sense of “knowing”.  Be open to receive however the spirit world and your own intuitive abilites present themselves to you.  You do not have to “see” your guide or loved one to know they are there.

I always start all work with spirit, in an attitude of gratitude.  They have lives on the spirit side and are busy too, so invite them to come visit you and thank them in advance for coming.  I also always start with a very simple prayer or mantra that sets the intention for “who” and whay types of spirits I would like to invite in to my space.  I repeat “Let nothing but love enter this place, let nothing but love emerge in this space.”  Then I ask a loved one on the spirit side, my grandfather, to guard the gateway (from this world to the spirit world) so that the only spirits who are allowed in to my space are coming from a place of love and with the intention of love for me and anyone I may be working with that day.  You may also ask for the protection of Jesus, saints, angels of god or any other religious figure that you identify with, to surround you in the energy of light, love and protection.

 You may speak out loud or in your mind, but begin by asking questions.  Try different approaches and be open, really open, to see the signs that they give you.  For some of you you may hear them answer you right there, some of you may see your guide or loved one.  You may also find that if you ask for some kind of sign from a loved one or guide, that it may show up some where unexpected days later.  Begin a dialogue with your guides and loved ones, they can hear you.  Even if you do not hear or see them, talk to them anyway and sooner or later you may hear and see them too.

 For those of you serious about “making contact” I urge you to sign up for the upcoming internet class.   It will be a live and interactive class, and their is nothing like this available out there anywhere.  It will be an 8 week class and by the end you will be astounded by what you discover you are able to do. 

 **Again, sign up for my E-Newsletter on this web site for more information on the class which will be scheduled and released soon.

with light and blessings,

Denise