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Contacting Your Spirit Guides and Loved One’s on the Spirit Side

Copyright Denise Lescano, 2008

In my work, there are a few questions that people continually ask me.  Do we all have Spirit Guides?  How do we contact them?  Can anyone do what I do as a Medium, and contact people on the Spirit Side? 

So, I am going to answer these questions and also explain how YOU can learn to connect with the spiritual realm in next week’s Blog.

First off, yes we ALL have spirit guides who help us and guide us in our lives here on the earth plane.  You will find many books on this subject, and which all will give you conflicting information about Spirit Guides.  I have one book that I read that stated that we all have a certain number of guides-7 for example,  and even goes on to name and describe each guide and it’s duties. 

I am going to tell you from my true and direct experience with the spirit world what they tell me about our spirit guides.  First of all, to my knowledge there is not a set number of spirit guides assigned to all people.  We all have different numbers of spirit guides at different times of our lives.  Here is how it works.  We do ALL have One Main spirit guide, who is with us from our birth to death.  This guides primary responsibility to us is to try and keep us on track with our particular life plan, or our purpose for coming in to this incarnation.  This guide works with us through many many lifetimes and even while we are residing on the spirit side of life and in between physical lives.  This guide in some cases, may have lived a physical exsitence at one time, but also may not have ever incarnated in to human form at all.  This guide is not a family member or loved one, this guide is like a teacher and guidance counselor all rolled in to one.  This Main guide helps you determine what “lessons” you will be taking while here “at school” to complete your individual “souls spiritual education.”  This main guide is also responsible for arranging from behind the scenes, the circumstances of your life.  They are responsible for the timing of events in your life, and bringing in the opportunities and obstacles that you will be presented with while here.  They help to guide you on your path by creating syncronicities (perceived coincidences), giving you signs, putting thoughts in your head and impressing you with feelings.  They also make the “connections” that put you in contact with other people in your life that you are learning or will be working with. 

There are also other guides.  Sometimes we have guides who are “specialists” who are brought in by your Main guide to help you at specific times in your life for specific things.  Say for example, you are starting a business and need some help getting started.  A Specialist guide may be brought in who had a similar business in a former physical life to help you.  They may impress a great idea in your mind or a hunch, for example.  Then of course, our loved ones as they pass over, will serve in the capacity of a guide and protector to us, as well.  Your Lifetime-Main guide how ever runs the show and is in charge of facilitating help and guidance from all the other spiritual guides.

I want to clarify a few things about “how” our guides help and guide us.  It is NOT the responsibility of our guides to give us every thing we want or keep us out of or away from difficult experiences.  Everything happens for a reason and a purpose and there are no “accidents.”  Spirit guides are there to guide us on our life path, that we sat down and determined before we were ever born.  It is important to realize that we ARE NOT Victim’s here – we ARE volunteersThey cannot and will not, give you all the answers or even guide you away from a painful or difficult experience if the experience is part of the life plan that you set up and necessary for your spiritual development.  It took me awhile to figure this one out!  I’m going to give you an example.  If it is important for your personal growth to go through a difficult relationship situation, your guide will not stear you away from that person.  They may actually guide you to them, not to necessarily cause you to experience pain, but to help you learn something important about yourself through that other person.  We are all here to learn and EVERY relationship is an opportunity to grow and learn.  Unfortunately, some times we are slow learners or a little stubborn and have to learn the hard way.  The important thing to keep in mind, even in the case of a failed relationship, is to reflect on what went wrong and learn from it.  Don’t obsess, don’t dwell or sink in to self pitty over a broken heart, just learn so that you do not need to experience the same type of relationship again.  If you find your self repeating the same scenarios over and over, with differnt people but always acting out the same old story, then you are missing some thing very important that you are not learning.  You will come to see that once you have gotten the lesson, there is no more need to repeat the painful experience.

Your Guides and Loved One’s will help you to make the best choices.  Pain is not necessarily part of our plan and often times can be easily avoided by making the best choice.  We many times experience pain due to making poor choices when presented with the opportunites or obstacles in our lives.  We some times experience pain because our pesrpective is tainted; or we may have a strong attachment to something we want or to a particular outcome; we may be too wrapped up in our ego (earthly) identity; or we may simply have an unrealistic perception or expectation of another person or event and as a result we set ourselves up for disappointment to follow.  Then of course, there are those “random” (which are not really random) events that are thrown at us in life and catch us by surprise, such as the sudden passing of a loved one.  Try to remember that even the most painful experiences, can be transformed in to a positive learning and growing experience for your self or others.

So as you learn to connect with your own spiritual guides and ask for their help, please keep these things in in mind.  Guides can and will intervene in the physical world if needed.  If it is not time for some one to die, they may actually divert a traffic accident, as a very close call.  They can also intervene and create very positive, unforseen opportunites if that is what your life path calls for at that time. Believe me when I tell you, that some times when we don’t get what we want, it is often a blessing in disquise.  It is important to learn to Trust your guides.  They can see in to our future what we cannot.  You may have your heart set on a particular person only to find that the relationship ends suddenly and you are devastated.  However, what you are not able see in that moment, is that their is someone else waiting for you down the road a bit who will be much more suited for you.  Your guides will know that, so ask them to guide you “on your highest possible path” and trust their guidance.  Try as hard as you can, to be open and not have a strong attahment to a very specific outcome.  Many times our Guides are working very hard to help us manifest the things we really want in our life, and then we are thrown off when the help shows up,  but in a different packaging or form than we expected. 

You also have to realize you cannot be a control-freak and work with your guides!  It also took me awhile to figure this one out- LOL   If you ask your Guides for help with something specific in your life,  it is important to step back, get out of the way and let them help.  Many times we get in their way trying to control and manipualte everything.  State what you need or want and then Let it go…and Trust!!!!  The opposite of Trust is Fear.  When we fear, we try to control and manipulate because we are afraid of what the outcome will be if we don’t take control.  Trust and Fear are opposing energies and cannot work together.  You have to choose Trust over Fear.  If you are feeling fear, choose to trust your guides anyway.  I have never had a time in my life where I asked for help that I did not get it.  A few times I almost missed it, because I was looking for help in the wrong place or pushing for an outcome that was not in my best long term interest.  However, I have learned that if sometihing does not go the way I want, there is a reason why and I trust spirit in guiding my life becasue they can see what I cannot. 

We all have the ability to connect and communicate with the spiritual world.  Your guides can hear you, even if you cannot hear or see them.  Talk to them in your meditations or prayers, they are God’s helpers.  Ask for their help and be open and receptive to receive it.  Try not to ask for a very specific scenario or outcome, but leave things open for flexibility.  Here is an example of what I mean.   A very important love relationship has suddenly ended.  I know the immediate impulse is to always ask your guides to bring that person back.  However, maybe they are not the greatest person for you, even if you do love them.  So instead, try asking your guides to bring in to your life someone who will give you a loving and fullfilling relationship and the relationship you really are looking for.  If that person is the one you just broke up with, they will come back to you.  If they are not, then spirit will bring in some one new to fullfill what you are asking for if you create that opening.  Be careful what you ask for, you may actually get it!  Then you may find yourself asking what was I thinking when I asked for this ?!  Ask spirit to help you manifiest the highest possible outcome for your greatest good, in what ever you desire in your life, but leave room for flexibility, you have to be open to receive.

Our Guides and loved ones communicate with all of us, all the time, in many ways.  They are always leaving signs for us, the challenge is learning the language in which they “speak” to us and learning how to listen.  In a physical world that is constantly shouting at us, the stimulation level is high and never ending, you must realize that the spirit world is whispering.  You have to quiet your surroundings and the chatter in your mind first, if you are going to hear their whispers.   In Next week’s Blog, I am going to explain to you how to see the signs, how to quiet your mind and how to listen and perceive the spiritual world and connect with it.  So stay tuned for Next Weeks episode of “Talking to the spirit side of Life!”


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Copyright, Denise Lescano 2008 



 Ghosts or Earthbound Spirits

“Earthbound Spirits” are a complicated subject.   A “haunting” as defined by Webster’s; ‘reoccurring visits from a ghost or spirit’.  In understanding earthbound spirits, it helps to remember that spirits who inhabit earthbound locations are basically “unstable people” who have left their physical body and are now in “spirit” form.  In my experience, these spirits are never “evil”, but more than likely are confused  and existing in a state of mental, emotional and/or spiritual imbalance, and as was usually the case, also while they were here in their physical life.  In my extensive experience as a professional Medium working with families who have lost loved ones by murder, suicide, domestic violence and accidental overdoses, I have encountered a lot of unstable and distraught spirits.  Many of these “earthbound” spirits are existing in a state of fear and misunderstanding.  They can be afraid to cross over in to the spirit realms for fear of judgment or that they will go to “hell” especially, if they have taken actions in their physical life that resulted in hurting others or even suicide, for example.  Many of these spirits have left unfinished business with the living who they are often times desperate to communicate with and get through too.  In their sometimes desperate attempts to connect with us, they be mistakenly perceived as malevolent but in my experience have no ill will or intention to scare us.


Let me be clear, that seeing a loved one around you does not necessarily mean that they are earthbound.  A loved one, who has crossed over in to the spirit realm, can “visit” us at any time.  The majority of spirits that I communicate with in a “Reading” have already crossed over in to the spirit realms.  I would estimate a very small amount, of maybe 3%, are actually in an earthbound state.  Some spirits will remain earthbound for a short period of time, before crossing over to the spirit realms.  Some spirits will cross over immediately after leaving the physical body.  There are also many places, widely known to be “haunted” which are frequented by rather friendly and harmless spirits, as well.


When people speak of a “Haunting”, they are most commonly referring to malevolent spirits of a very low vibrational energy and spiritual awareness.  These spirit experiences are many times random in the fact that the spirits have no personal connection to the people that they are “haunting”. These types of spirits may have a distinctly dark, negative or ominous “feeling” when they are around.  **It is important to know that these types of spirit experiences are very rare and not as common as we or Hollywood would like to believe.  Again, I must mention that these spirits are usually ‘mistaken’ to be dark or evil, but are really just existing in a very low level of spiritual awareness or are seriously unbalanced.  Many psychics who are not experienced in dealing with spirits on these lower energy levels, may often times also mistake them, for being bad or evil…which is simply not true. With that being said, when an unstable spirit, or sometimes a group of spirits, chooses to stay earthbound, they may “attach” to a family, a person or a place; such as a house.  When a spirit attaches to a person or a family for example; they may attempt to continue a “shell” of an earthly existence by drawing on the energy of the family in a particular house.  Some spirits if particularly manipulative and controlling may take things even further and try to experience physical life again “through” a person and even influence a person.  Consider the fact that, for example, when a murderer or a child molester dies physically, they are not necessarily locked away in “the gates of hell” so to speak.  These are exactly the types of spirits that some times will hang around the earth plane and “haunt” people and places. They were predators, manipulative and controlling in physical life, and that does not necessarily change when they move on into spirit form.   These types of spirits are attracted to and prey on the weak of heart and mind.  These spirits are often attracted to people on the physical plane who may be struggling with mental illness or addiction; who have suffered abuse or trauma; people who are particularly “fearful” of them because of religious beliefs; and sometimes even children due to their openness, vulnerability and innocence.  They may also be attracted to regular people who are of a lower spiritual awareness and vibrational energy that linger in or hold onto feelings and thoughts of a negative nature (and lower vibration) such as; anger, jealousy, revenge, greed, depression etc.

*In some cases, although much more rare, a haunting may have an energy “presence” which may have never lived an earthly existence.  That is a whole other subject, of which I will not go into here. 


The vast majority of cases of spirits inhabiting a place, like a “haunted house” are harmless.  However,  It is important to keep in mind that, whether a spirit that chooses to stay on the earth plane, is harmless or not, it is not a good idea for them to stay here for many reasons.  It is ultimately better for them and in their best interest to cross over into the spirit realms.   It is also not a good idea to have earthbound spirit energy hanging around a house or hanging around a particular person for a long period of time.  They will eventually drain the energy of the people they are hanging around.  It is also possible for them to affect the moods of the people they are hanging around by impressing feelings of fear, sadness and depression etc onto them.    


It is also important to know that, the majority of people who pass on to spirit form, will find their way over to the spirit realms just fine on their own.  However, occasionally a few will need some help.  I have been very successful in helping unstable or distraught spirits who are still here on the earth plane to cross over to the spirit plane.  With help from my own spirit guides, helpers and loved ones on the spirit side of life, I am usually able to convince them to move on to a better place.  Most of these spirits are confused, sad, and some times angry or feel that they are not yet “ready” to move on for one reason or another.



As a Medium, when I am dealing with an earthbound spirit, I will communicate with the spirit or spirits, find out who they are, why they are there, and help them to understand why they need to move on and how to move on.  I do this much in the same way as a counselor might work with an emotionally unstable patient. I do not do this alone, and enlist the help of many spirits from the highest levels of the spirit realms to come through and help these confused souls move on to where they are supposed to go.   


Contrary to popular belief, this work has to do with helping, healing and counseling those in spirit and nothing to do with “casting them out” “banishing” or “exorcising” them.  My greatest strengths in working with these spirits is humility, respect and compassion for them…I work to help them with understanding and healing much as I do with my “people” clients.  The most difficult and darker spirits who are on a very low level of spiritual awareness, are usually handled by my co-workers on the spirit side.  As I said, I never work alone…I am always working with “my co-workers on the spirit side of life.” 



Please feel free to email me, if you have questions or are unsure if you are dealing with an earthbound spirit or a haunting.  *Please do not email to ask me “how to do this work or how to get rid of a spirit”. It is a very complicated subject and each case is totally unique. There is no simple answer.  Just like a trained professional counselor would not attempt to tell you how to counsel an unstable person, neither can I nor would I tell you how to counsel a spirit.  I am highly trained and extensively experienced in this work and dealing with spirits. I would not suggest that anyone should take this type of work on without really knowing what they are doing.  The spirit realm has a whole list of natural laws that govern it that are very different than the way things work here in the physical plane.  It is important to have a healthy respect for that fact, especially when working with unstable or disturbed spirits.

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